The Reset: Learning to Slow Down After a Year of Pushing Through

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Hey, Steph. Hello. Oh, I sound great. You sound

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like you're getting over the flu. Don't even

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worry about it. You're powering along. I feel

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like we have a special guest phone operator on

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the call today. Hey, guys. Yes, we found this

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really awesome phone sex operator to join us

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today. We're setting the ambiance for today's

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episode. Welcome back to the first episode of

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the Bariatric Banter podcast in 2026. Crazy,

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crazy, crazy, crazy. Who would have thought that

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literally voice noting while at the dog park

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in 2024 would have led to a full year? Like we're

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almost at a full year because we did start mid.

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January, but I believe that this is episode 49.

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We are three episodes away from one full year,

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which is crazy. Wow. Crazy. We did it. We did

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it. It doesn't feel like a year, but I feel like

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I just in general, this year flew by like every

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season flew by. I agree. And I think this year

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I had big expectations for this year and. I think

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this is something good to talk about. I did that

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whole, here's everything I'm going to achieve

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in 2025. And I'm going to run a race every month

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and do this and do that and train for a marathon.

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And, oh, I'm going to see the world and do this.

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And then everything kind of fell to shit because

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I got sick at the end of last year. People are

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going to be like, Jesus Christ, this is her whole

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personality. She got sick. I got sick at the

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end of last year. And then everything went to

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shit. And I'm not saying it was a bad year because

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I'm here. The sun is shining. Like, it was a

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good year. It threw your whole plan off the rails.

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Yeah. And I don't believe in saying, like, it

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was a bad year. It was a good year. Like, I think

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you have exciting, momentous years and then you

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just have normal years. And I don't want to label

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2025 as bad, but sweet Jesus. It was a rough

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one. It was really rough for me. It was. And

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it took me until, I'm not kidding, probably last

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week, thank you therapy, to realize that I didn't

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take any time to process like my sickness, my

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anger, my grief over my sickness and my ruined

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plans. And that I literally tried to just push

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my way through recovery and my body completely

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fell apart at the end of last year. I came out

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of pneumonia and was like. Oh, if I'm out of

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the hospital, I'm fine. And I went back to running

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like a week after being discharged from the hospital,

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struggling in the gym, like barely being able

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to breathe, heart rate through the roof. But

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then, you know, I literally ended up running

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two 10Ks in March. That's like that's one and

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a half, two months after severe respiratory illness.

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And then at that point. Everything fell apart.

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April was cardiac heart palpitations and my heart

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rates through the roof and my resting heart rates

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climbing. All my cardiac tests came back normal,

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but they could see it, but they said, it's benign,

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it's normal. And then in June, my blood sugar,

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oh, my dizziness, my cold spells, my lightheadedness

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started happening. Must be allergies. Then the

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blood sugar started tanking and I could not for

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the life of me keep my blood sugar up. And it

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all kind of culminated in October being the biggest

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burnout of my life. Like I just hit such an anxiety

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panic wall and we have determined it's my body.

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kind of giving out because I never gave it time

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to rest you never gave it time to process anything

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it just kept like panic panic panic panic panic

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panic go go go and I think it's because I was

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really angry and sad and I didn't want to deal

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with those emotions about well and you don't

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want to admit that you need to stop for a minute

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like I did not because no because that is in

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our mind a lot of times that's that's failure

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we have to stop we have to give in We have to

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do nothing. And that is a hard thing to do. And

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so you don't want to process and deal with the

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fact that, OK, I need to like I need to physically

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stop and chill out and do nothing, which is very

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difficult. And I think you nailed it. And I would

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kind of pose the question to you, like, I think,

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do you think that that's our obese self really

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coming in here about, oh, I'm yet again? failing

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to do something that I set out to do. I think

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it's, I think it's part of that, but I think

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it's also like, I was talking to Devin yesterday

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because of this stupid cold and flu, whatever

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you want to call it. I've done, I've done, I

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did nothing for eight days, but lay on the couch.

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Like I would get up and maybe do dishes, but

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like the couch was molded to my body. And by

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yesterday I was just so like, literally like,

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Oh, there, there's my spot. Um, I was just so

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antsy and like, anxious and angry but antsy I

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think is the best way to describe because I hadn't

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done anything in eight days and I think it goes

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back to we've put so much pressure on ourselves

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through this whole process and we've worked so

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hard to build habits and build structure and

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build routine and be consistent and follow through

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that when we have to then stop and take a break

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it feels like failure and it feels like oh my

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gosh I'm gonna go off the rails oh my gosh I'm

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dropping the ball. Oh my gosh, I'm going to spiral

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out of control. I'm not going to be able to get

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back into my routine again. I'm ruining all the

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work I've put in. And we start to kind of go

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through that panic mindset of, I can't not do

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something. I've worked so hard to build this

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up. I said to Devin, like, I need to do something.

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And even yesterday, then I did like a really

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short, I did a 10 minute total body weight, like

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dumbbell workout and a five minute cardio Tabata,

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which I wasn't planning on doing, but it. was

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I clicked on the wrong button. Anyway, I ended

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up doing it anyway. Um, thought I was going to

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die, but I was like, Oh my God, this is not what

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I thought it was going to be. But I, whatever

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I did it. But I said to Devin and he, he's like,

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don't push it. He's like, you're moving today.

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You're doing dishes. You're doing laundry. Like

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you're, you're already ahead of where you were,

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but I could not. stop like I couldn't do it another

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day of nothing I just felt so unproductive and

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so off track and I think it just goes back to

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that we've we've put so much pressure on ourselves

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to change our habits and change our routines

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that to not do anything and not put in the work

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it brings back and like triggers how we used

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to be yeah I think You kind of like hinted around

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some stuff too of like this lack of control is

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something I struggle with as well. And I know

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you do too. I think for the first time in my

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life, I finally felt like I had control. Right.

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Because when it came to being obese, I just,

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I felt like I couldn't control it. I felt like

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no matter what diet I tried or exercise I did,

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like it was so out of my control. And I think

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that's why you'll see like a lot of. obese individuals

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are really into like their nails or their hair

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or something and you kind of go huh we but it's

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because they can control it they can control

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the color the length the shape like they have

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total control over something that was me in my

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hair all the time I was very into my hair like

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I was constantly getting it colored and styled

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and done and I was really into like the fake

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eyelashes and getting that done like I was so

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and like now after weight loss I've become like

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I call myself like that hippie granola person

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who's like I don't need makeup today I look totally

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fine like oh that waste of money it's so true

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though like control you can yeah if you look

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back I was talking to somebody at work the other

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day because I hadn't seen him on camera in a

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while and uh he was like man I feel like your

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hair has grown a lot in the last like little

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while and I said well yeah because I haven't

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done anything to it and then we got on the topic

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of hair and uh I was saying how I told him I

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was like, if you go through my Facebook, I said,

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if you look at, I used to change my hair every

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six weeks. And when I mean change, I mean like

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drastic change. Like I would have a different

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haircut, a different hair color. I did every

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cut and color under the sun because that was

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something I could control. And I could never

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figure out for a long time, like why I wasn't

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risky in any other parts of my life. I wasn't

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outrageous in any other parts of my life. But

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that's something that I could totally control

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the look and the feel of and how it turned out

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and what it, what it was. And now we had, I was

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talking to somebody and they kind of commented

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about my hair and I said, yeah, it's driving

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me nuts because I haven't done anything to it

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in a year and a half, almost two years. I haven't

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dyed it. I've trimmed it, but I haven't cut it.

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It's not crazy. It's boring. It's just normal.

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And it's very different from how I used to be.

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But it's because I am controlling so many other

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parts of my life now that I wasn't controlling

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before. Yep. It's shifted for sure. And so I

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think that was probably one of the hard parts

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when this all happened was that I was not willing

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to give up that control. I had this plan. This

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is what I was doing. I was going to be running.

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Like there was even a part of me that. debated

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not canceling my Florida 10K in February while

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I was still in the goddamn hospital. And I was

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like, you know, I'll be totally fine. But I never

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sat with the emotions of like, I'm so angry and

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there's grief. It's weird to say that, but there's

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grief about I was going to do all this. And I

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think I just kept pushing and pushing and pushing

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and pushing that if I just ignore this symptom

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and this symptom. And at the time we were looking

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at it. In a silo. Oh, why do you have lightheadedness?

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That's odd. Oh, why is your blood sugar like

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that? That's odd. And we weren't collectively

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looking at like, oh, OK. So there's something

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called post viral syndrome where like when you

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are sick enough, your body just kind of fucks

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off at a whack and everything starts. Yeah, it

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can't because everything's connected. It's hormonal.

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Yeah. I can't regulate things properly. And so

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you think it's all blood sugar. Weird. Out of

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nowhere. Actually, you're. Your hormones have

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been tanking. Your vitamin levels have been tanking.

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Like it's all little symptoms. Everything tries

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to overcompensate for what's not working. Ding,

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ding, ding, ding. And so you start whipping through

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one thing and the next. And so sure enough, that

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led to the end of 2025 being really rough for

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me because I was like, why is my panic and anxiety

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back? Surprise, I have, you know, mild OCD. Why

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is that back? And I was like, it's not that it's

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back. It's that your body is physically trying

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to shut you down to do nothing. So I had the

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flu. And like you, I was out like I bad. They

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thought I had pneumonia again. It was really

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scary to hear that you might have pneumonia again.

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It was terrifying to have to get those chest

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x -rays again, because if you catch it three

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times in your life, it's considered a crisis.

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Like you should not have it multiple times because

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it's like you are going to be resistant to treatment

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for it. So I'm I'm dealing with this thinking,

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oh, my God, I've got it again in less than a

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year. You can see and hear that my mom. doesn't

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want to talk about it because she's really anxious

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about it. And that's what she does. Bless her.

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You can hear her being like, OK, OK. Yep. Oh,

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no, I need comfort. Someone comfort me right

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now. So I'm panicked about it. And I'm just like,

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I can't walk down the stairs without my oxygen

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tanking. I'm so sick. Turns out to not be pneumonia,

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thank God. But it's still the worst flu. And

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I just shut my body down for four solid weeks.

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I did nothing. I barely ate. I stayed on the

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couch. I didn't move. I canceled everything.

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I just didn't move. And I was like, okay, I guess

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that's what my body needed. Because now as January

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kicks in, like we're starting to get, we're getting

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more energized. I just needed a break. My body

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was like, yo girl. Yeah. It needs a break. And

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it's like, we don't realize how long things impact

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our body for either. And I, like, I just talked

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to, I just talked to my doctor the other day

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because I'm going for. I feel like I've had blood

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work every two weeks for the past two months.

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I'm going for another round of blood work to

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test some more hormonal stuff because my perimenopause

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symptoms are just driving me through the roof.

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And so I had a chat with her on the phone the

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other day, and we were going through all the

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symptoms I'm having, and she's like, yep, yep,

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yep, yep, yep. And then one of them was dizziness,

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and I keep getting dizziness. And it's usually

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when I stand up, and I said to her, So she's

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asking, is it, you know, after this, is it after

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exercise? I said, no, it's usually when I stand

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up. And she's like, you don't have it randomly.

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I said, no, it's not like I'm walking down the

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hallway and I get it. It's when I get up or very

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shortly after getting up. And so, excuse me,

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she said that is 100 % a perimenopause symptom.

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But she said it's also, she made a comment about,

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you know, having had surgery. And I was like,

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yeah, but like. That was 14 months ago. And she

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kind of laughed. She goes, yeah, so? And I was

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like, that was 14 months ago. And she's like,

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your body's still dealing with that. Yep. And

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I was like, really? And she goes, Steph. She

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goes, your body had a major change. And she goes,

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our bodies, at times and for certain things,

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yes, they are quick to adapt in like emergency

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situations and stuff. She goes, but generally

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speaking, our bodies take a long time to adapt,

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to change. And to rework themselves and figure

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themselves out and reroute things. And she said,

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when you're dealing with not only surgery, but

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then, yeah, hormones and perimenopause, whatever.

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She goes, your body is going to take a long time

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to regulate itself. And she goes, we often don't

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give it enough time. We push through things.

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We rush through things. And she's like, Steph,

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your body is still dealing with it. And I was

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like, shit, man. Like, I wouldn't, like. I just

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assumed it was 100 % perimenopause. I would have

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never contributed it to still being an after

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side effect from surgery 14 months down the road.

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Oh, my gosh. But that's the thing. And I know

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I get this from my mom, who we'll get to that

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in a minute. By the way, thank you for listening

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to her episode. We'll recap and get back to some

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cool stuff here soon. But thanks to my mom, who

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is the notorious nurse that wants everything

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to be healed in a day. She had a fall recently.

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And has really hurt her shoulder. And it's not

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getting better fast enough for her. And she's

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constantly saying that to me. Like, oh, my God,

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this should be done by now. Like, what is taking

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so long? And then I will say to her, are you

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crazy? You fell on December 9th, Mom. It is December

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25th. Of course it's still sore. We're not even

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a month out. Two weeks. And you hit the ground.

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I said, yes, you didn't break anything, but you

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probably fucked some shit up that's going to

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need to take time to heal. But like she doesn't

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want to hear that. Right. It needs to be healed

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immediately. And I'm like, how come the advice

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I give my mom is like rest, recover, slow down.

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But then for me, it's like, yeah, so you need

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to be better by tomorrow. Let's get up. Let's

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get going. Like you can't just have to be off.

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But it's funny you mention it because this was

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the number one thing I Googled. I'd say if you

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looked at my top Google search for 2025, the

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number one thing was like, how long to get over

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pneumonia? How long does it take to get over

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pneumonia? And a lot of doctors, including my

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own, and a lot of people on the internet have

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said like 18 to 24 months. And I was like, get

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lost. Like, no. It's crazy. Absolutely the hell

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not. And it's because it's not these symptoms.

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It's not, well, your lungs are going to hurt

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for 18 or 24 months and you're going to be coughing.

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It's like your heart rate will... turn to normal

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you'll get more energy like you'll start to feel

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like I think we think of only physical symptoms

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that we can see and touch and feel but like it

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takes a while for bodies to work their way through

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because you during surgery or during anything,

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you deplete resources. And you and I know, because

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we've seen enough of this and read enough, vitamin

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deficiencies take a very long time to develop.

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And then they take a longer time to fix. You

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don't just go one week feeling great and the

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next week going, oh, I think my vitamin D levels

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are now tanking. Like it takes months for that

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to happen. And then it takes like, for some people,

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three to six months to build your vitamin D backup.

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It's not, it's not, it's not overnight. And it's

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minimal. Like I think, You can take 10 ,000 vitamin

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D for three months straight and only increase

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your levels by 30 points, which if you're super

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deficient, moves you to deficient. So I think

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that's the thing we don't think about is all

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the hormones that have changed, all the vitamin

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levels that are changing, either going up or

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going down, inflammation that's finally leaving

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or maybe reappearing. What does your body look

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like after you've lost 100 pounds? Are there

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things that you didn't know or didn't feel because

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other things took president? Being so fat, my

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joints hurt all the time. And I couldn't sleep

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because my back was constantly thrown out due

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to like my size and my bed after losing 150 pounds.

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Now you kind of notice other things like, oh,

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I do have tightness in my foot. That seems like

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a muscle issue. And man, my fingers are more

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achy than I really like. There's other little

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things. Not that you're going to get you're not

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going to get wildly sick after surgery. No, no.

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You become more aware of things. And yeah, like

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we just we forget how much things are connected

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and how how many parts of your body rely on other

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parts of your body and how it like we said. It

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takes a while because one thing has to recover.

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That change of that first thing will impact the

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second thing. Then that has to get back on track

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and reroute itself and figure it out. Then that

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goes into the next thing and so on. And it's

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all like this domino effect. And it takes time.

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But we're in that culture of we want instant

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gratification. We want things now. We want everything

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done quickly. We want it yesterday. that we don't

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often have the patience or the time, or we just

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don't think about it. Like I honest to God just

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did not even think that my body would still be

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having a symptom like that from something 14

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months ago. I figured by now I should, it should

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be, it should be over it. But again, the hormones

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get impacted. Yeah. Everything is a domino effect

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and we just have to be, be more patient, give

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ourselves, I think that grace and realize that

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taking a step, back or putting, not even taking

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a step back, pausing something is not failure.

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It's not falling behind. It's not ruining your

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progress. It's actually probably going to help

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you in the long run because it's what your body

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actually needs versus trying to push through

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and causing more damage or ending up having to

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fall further behind than if you would have just

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paused when you needed to. Yeah. Yeah. And exactly.

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post post viral syndrome or surgery or whatever

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you might have slow down. And I think that the

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big thing for me is like I need 2026 to be about

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more living in the moment. It is fun to have

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plans and we're going to get to that soon. It

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is fun to have plans. But I had a I had a friend

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reach out to our group chat and say, hey, like,

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are you guys doing goal setting and big things

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for 2026 and bop bop bop? And I didn't want to

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be a Debbie Downer, but I was like, truthfully.

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No, I do have running plans because I now actually

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feel good enough to get back into it. But I said,

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I just find that every year people set out with

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the best intentions to have these giant mood

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boards or bingo cards or however you're doing

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it of all these things that you're going to do

00:20:01.170 --> 00:20:03.609
in 2026. And when something comes up and that

00:20:03.609 --> 00:20:06.170
doesn't happen, it has more of a negative impact

00:20:06.170 --> 00:20:08.390
on you than a positive. When you start looking

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at this calendar of all these things you're going

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to do, a year is a very short time. Anything

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can happen in that year. And then you're going

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to reflect back on why I didn't do this and I

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didn't do this and I didn't get to do this. And

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now I'm behind on this. And like you're just

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building stress and mental distress into your

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year. I like doing lists of things like 40 before

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40 or 30 before 30. Like just a list of like

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some cool shit that I'd like to do before I turn

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40. Right. You know, because you have X amount

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of years or 50 before 50 or whatever you want

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to do. 26 things in 2026 and it's not big giant

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I'm gonna you know get married and renovate a

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house and I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna drink

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water every single day and I'm never gonna eat

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candy again it's more like it'd be kind of cool

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to ride a horse never done that oh I'd like to

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you know go to Top Shot Golf because I hear that's

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kind of cool and that might be fun to do some

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sort of road trip this year you know like I keep

00:21:02.809 --> 00:21:07.920
it yeah ambivalent because like I don't I've

00:21:07.920 --> 00:21:09.720
seen what happened. Like last year, I had this

00:21:09.720 --> 00:21:12.440
giant calendar and it was so detailed. And I

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told everybody, like I did a huge post about

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every month. Here's the big race Hannah's going

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to do. And it's all going to culminate in this

00:21:18.920 --> 00:21:21.259
one. And it's going to be awesome. And oh, my

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God, this is so my year and I can't wait. And

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like, holy fuck, taking that calendar down was

00:21:26.720 --> 00:21:31.269
hard. Like I cried. I bawled my eyes out. And

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then I pushed myself too hard to try to get back

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to some random plan that I had set in place in

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November for no apparent reason. And I found

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myself reflecting back and going, I did not,

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I did not enjoy the positives enough in 2025.

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Like I, I let the illness and what I didn't do

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overshadow all the amazing things that I did

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do. Like, there was so much cool shit that I

00:21:55.450 --> 00:21:58.009
got to do in 2025. And because it wasn't big

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enough or it wasn't on my list, I didn't give

00:22:01.130 --> 00:22:03.809
it the same credit. And that's why I hate saying,

00:22:03.849 --> 00:22:08.529
like, it was a bad year or a good year. But,

00:22:08.609 --> 00:22:11.910
yeah, I don't know if I believe in doing mood

00:22:11.910 --> 00:22:15.569
boards, bingo cards, big giant affirmations of

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everything you're going to achieve. It's funny

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because I had a couple people lately talking

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about vision boards. in doing vision boards.

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And I think if you're going to, and I have one

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friend who does them and she like swears by them

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and has seen really good success and loves them.

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But I think the difference being, and the thing

00:22:35.049 --> 00:22:38.789
I like about hers is that her vision boards are

00:22:38.789 --> 00:22:43.470
big, big, long -term goals. Like you said, they're

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not something that has to be done. right now

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or this month. It's in my ideal situation. If

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I look at my life, this is what I would love

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to have. Whether that be like a cottage or a

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new car or a new boat or something that you're

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working towards. And then within that year, she

00:23:02.109 --> 00:23:05.130
would build on the steps to get to that. And

00:23:05.130 --> 00:23:07.529
if she hit that end point in that year, perfect.

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It would come off her vision board, but it wasn't

00:23:09.509 --> 00:23:12.880
something that she has to have. Like there's

00:23:12.880 --> 00:23:14.400
been items that have been on her vision board

00:23:14.400 --> 00:23:17.859
for the past three years. But within those years,

00:23:17.980 --> 00:23:21.200
she has gotten closer to that. She has put steps

00:23:21.200 --> 00:23:24.039
in place to get there. She has hit goals, building

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up the ladder to get there. Gosh, because I think

00:23:28.920 --> 00:23:31.920
it's important to have goals. But like we always

00:23:31.920 --> 00:23:33.960
talk about small achievable goals, right? So

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I think it's good to have those pie in the sky

00:23:36.740 --> 00:23:40.680
goals and have those big items. but to not think

00:23:40.680 --> 00:23:42.519
that you're going to go from zero to a hundred.

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Build those little ladders in there to get you

00:23:45.799 --> 00:23:48.099
to that big end goal. But I think that's key,

00:23:48.180 --> 00:23:50.460
right? Is like making them small and achievable.

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So you're not setting yourself up for success.

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It's like that keep it simple, stupid. Like I

00:23:56.799 --> 00:23:58.420
remember I would teach you to always say the

00:23:58.420 --> 00:24:01.299
kiss rule, right? Keep it simple and build it

00:24:01.299 --> 00:24:04.380
up there. Be realistic and don't think that you're

00:24:04.380 --> 00:24:07.059
going to go from. having very little money in

00:24:07.059 --> 00:24:08.579
the bank to buying a cottage at the end of the

00:24:08.579 --> 00:24:11.099
year. Buying a house. That'd be great, but is

00:24:11.099 --> 00:24:14.119
it realistic? Probably not. And I think that's

00:24:14.119 --> 00:24:16.720
where you nailed it. Like maybe 2026 vision board

00:24:16.720 --> 00:24:19.740
shouldn't be buy a house and win the lotto and

00:24:19.740 --> 00:24:21.339
do that. Like, unless like you're very close

00:24:21.339 --> 00:24:24.900
to doing that, but also, I don't know, maybe

00:24:24.900 --> 00:24:28.359
just make it. Those small achievable things like

00:24:28.359 --> 00:24:30.119
I think I think there's something to be said

00:24:30.119 --> 00:24:32.480
about celebrating the small victories and little

00:24:32.480 --> 00:24:34.299
wins throughout a year. We don't give them enough

00:24:34.299 --> 00:24:38.079
credit because they add up. They do. And so I

00:24:38.079 --> 00:24:40.500
don't know. I just I'm not against it. And I

00:24:40.500 --> 00:24:42.019
think it's wonderful. And I love people getting

00:24:42.019 --> 00:24:44.599
into this mentality. But I do worry that are

00:24:44.599 --> 00:24:46.559
you actually going to stick with it? Is it achievable

00:24:46.559 --> 00:24:49.710
and will it do more? negative than good like

00:24:49.710 --> 00:24:51.009
are you going to be the type of person that's

00:24:51.009 --> 00:24:52.769
going to be okay with not achieving those things

00:24:52.769 --> 00:24:54.769
that you've written down or are you going to

00:24:54.769 --> 00:24:56.829
be like oh my god what have I done why did I

00:24:56.829 --> 00:24:58.269
say I was going to do this and then you're going

00:24:58.269 --> 00:25:00.470
to use that to be miserable and you're going

00:25:00.470 --> 00:25:02.309
to discredit all the other things that you got

00:25:02.309 --> 00:25:04.250
to do and I think that's the other hard thing

00:25:04.250 --> 00:25:08.049
for me about bingo cards or mood boarding or

00:25:08.049 --> 00:25:10.390
whatever, is that like a year changes drastically.

00:25:10.490 --> 00:25:12.150
What you think you're going to do in January

00:25:12.150 --> 00:25:14.390
can drastically change by February because turn

00:25:14.390 --> 00:25:17.930
of events, new jobs, money, love comes into your

00:25:17.930 --> 00:25:19.750
life. Like other things happen, right? And then

00:25:19.750 --> 00:25:22.430
it's like, oh, maybe I'm not actually going to

00:25:22.430 --> 00:25:25.150
do this, this, this, this, and this. Or unfortunately,

00:25:25.250 --> 00:25:28.329
something maybe bad happened. And then you're

00:25:28.329 --> 00:25:30.549
now have a constant reminder of why you didn't

00:25:30.549 --> 00:25:33.250
do that thing on that list. So I just, I just

00:25:33.250 --> 00:25:35.329
do, I want people to do what they want to do.

00:25:35.400 --> 00:25:37.079
For me personally, it doesn't work because I

00:25:37.079 --> 00:25:39.759
tend to be way too overambitious. I then tend

00:25:39.759 --> 00:25:41.700
to get really upset that I didn't complete what's

00:25:41.700 --> 00:25:43.940
on there. I'm not the type of person that wants

00:25:43.940 --> 00:25:47.220
to build habit trackers either because, I don't

00:25:47.220 --> 00:25:50.009
know, they just don't really work for me. I know

00:25:50.009 --> 00:25:51.430
a lot of people do that in the new year, too.

00:25:51.509 --> 00:25:52.970
Like this is going to be the year that I do.

00:25:53.089 --> 00:25:56.049
I drink water every single morning and like that's

00:25:56.049 --> 00:25:58.009
cool. I don't think you need to plan that for

00:25:58.009 --> 00:26:01.529
the whole year. Maybe do a challenge. Make January

00:26:01.529 --> 00:26:03.569
like I think it's going to be hard for you to

00:26:03.569 --> 00:26:05.710
have a list of 52 things that you swear you're

00:26:05.710 --> 00:26:07.470
going to do every week or every month and then

00:26:07.470 --> 00:26:11.789
track it. That's a lot to go from not doing it.

00:26:11.910 --> 00:26:15.369
Right. Is knowing knowing that like you're saying

00:26:15.369 --> 00:26:17.950
you're the type of person who you know. That's

00:26:17.950 --> 00:26:19.809
not going to work for. So if you are somebody

00:26:19.809 --> 00:26:22.730
where, you know, that behavior is going to you're

00:26:22.730 --> 00:26:24.730
going to like get compulsive about it or it's

00:26:24.730 --> 00:26:26.390
going to eat away at you if you don't hit it.

00:26:26.910 --> 00:26:29.630
Knowing that ahead of time, I think is important

00:26:29.630 --> 00:26:31.250
because then you're not getting yourself into

00:26:31.250 --> 00:26:33.569
those situations. If you're somebody who needs

00:26:33.569 --> 00:26:39.210
that constant push and that big, big pie in the

00:26:39.210 --> 00:26:42.009
sky goal and you need that excessive push or

00:26:42.009 --> 00:26:46.089
reminder or motivation, then. Perfect. But I

00:26:46.089 --> 00:26:48.730
think that's just it, right? Knowing what feeds

00:26:48.730 --> 00:26:51.670
you, knowing what motivates you and knowing what

00:26:51.670 --> 00:26:55.650
style will benefit you is important so that you

00:26:55.650 --> 00:26:57.609
can leverage that and then you can use that to

00:26:57.609 --> 00:26:59.009
your advantage. And we've talked about that.

00:27:00.289 --> 00:27:02.529
Excuse me. We've talked about that even in terms

00:27:02.529 --> 00:27:05.470
of like exercise, right? Like, am I the person

00:27:05.470 --> 00:27:08.680
that needs. a personal trainer? Am I the person

00:27:08.680 --> 00:27:11.200
that needs soft motivation? Am I the person that

00:27:11.200 --> 00:27:13.299
needs that army bootcamp person yelling in my

00:27:13.299 --> 00:27:15.559
ear? Do I need an accountability group? Like

00:27:15.559 --> 00:27:17.980
it's just knowing what works for you, what's

00:27:17.980 --> 00:27:20.079
going to set you up for success. And then looking

00:27:20.079 --> 00:27:24.480
ahead, leveraging that to put the steps in place

00:27:24.480 --> 00:27:26.680
that you need for the outcome that you want.

00:27:26.779 --> 00:27:28.660
And knowing that what works for someone on social

00:27:28.660 --> 00:27:32.099
might not work for you. And also just understanding

00:27:32.099 --> 00:27:34.319
like human limitations and your own limitations.

00:27:34.500 --> 00:27:38.359
If you are trying to go from, doing one habit

00:27:38.359 --> 00:27:41.539
a week to having a list of 15 that you swear

00:27:41.539 --> 00:27:43.859
you're going to do every week like realistically

00:27:43.859 --> 00:27:46.440
stop for a minute and say is it too much to try

00:27:46.440 --> 00:27:50.000
to go from 1 to 15 should I more really try to

00:27:50.000 --> 00:27:53.339
do two things this month and then when I've got

00:27:53.339 --> 00:27:55.960
those two things maybe add a third and I think

00:27:55.960 --> 00:27:57.539
that's just the problem with the what you see

00:27:57.539 --> 00:28:01.359
on social is like it's very ambitious but it

00:28:01.359 --> 00:28:04.119
might not work for you so do what works for you

00:28:04.119 --> 00:28:06.380
also don't do it if you don't want to I'm not

00:28:06.539 --> 00:28:08.690
to be posting them. mood board. I'm not doing

00:28:08.690 --> 00:28:10.950
a resolution. Like I'm not doing any of that.

00:28:10.970 --> 00:28:13.609
I have my calendar of when I want to run and

00:28:13.609 --> 00:28:15.869
some of the runs that I'm doing this year. And

00:28:15.869 --> 00:28:18.670
that's about it. So yeah, do what works for you.

00:28:18.789 --> 00:28:20.970
And it's okay to not do it. And it's okay to

00:28:20.970 --> 00:28:22.809
question it. And it's okay to think that maybe

00:28:22.809 --> 00:28:25.009
it's just not right for you, but it's also okay

00:28:25.009 --> 00:28:26.910
to love it. It's also okay to say, man, mood

00:28:26.910 --> 00:28:28.470
boards are the best thing that ever happened

00:28:28.470 --> 00:28:32.029
to me. I did have a list for bariatrics of like

00:28:32.029 --> 00:28:34.049
what I want to do after surgery. And it was things

00:28:34.049 --> 00:28:37.160
like ride a horse, travel more comfortably. And

00:28:37.160 --> 00:28:40.700
that's fun. I like having that. And I think having

00:28:40.700 --> 00:28:42.759
a travel list like I have a travel list of all

00:28:42.759 --> 00:28:44.519
the countries that I eventually love to see.

00:28:44.599 --> 00:28:46.859
There is no deadline on that. There's no time

00:28:46.859 --> 00:28:49.380
frame. It's just in my life. I want to see these

00:28:49.380 --> 00:28:52.200
countries. And I think that's cool, too. I just

00:28:52.200 --> 00:28:54.079
think we maybe get swept up a little too much

00:28:54.079 --> 00:28:56.539
in January to completely restart our lives and

00:28:56.539 --> 00:28:58.859
become different people. Yeah. And maybe maybe

00:28:58.859 --> 00:29:01.259
that's my advice is like. If you're going to

00:29:01.259 --> 00:29:04.019
do a tracker or a mood board or whatever, it

00:29:04.019 --> 00:29:06.099
shouldn't be to completely change who you are.

00:29:06.420 --> 00:29:09.180
It should be to do stuff that genuinely makes

00:29:09.180 --> 00:29:11.920
you happy. I think the fear I see is people doing

00:29:11.920 --> 00:29:13.519
these things that's like, well, I'm going to

00:29:13.519 --> 00:29:15.799
become a completely different person who exercises

00:29:15.799 --> 00:29:17.980
eight times a week and drinks water and goes

00:29:17.980 --> 00:29:19.539
to bed at this time and does this and does it.

00:29:19.579 --> 00:29:21.839
And it's like, is that genuinely who you are

00:29:21.839 --> 00:29:23.759
as a person, though? Or is it who you wish you

00:29:23.759 --> 00:29:27.079
were? And you're trying to use a tracker to change

00:29:27.079 --> 00:29:30.240
you as a person. That's like dying. And it's

00:29:30.240 --> 00:29:32.980
okay if they change. I think that's the thing

00:29:32.980 --> 00:29:34.640
too, right? Like just because you wrote it down

00:29:34.640 --> 00:29:37.240
doesn't mean it's set in stone. Things can change.

00:29:37.259 --> 00:29:39.200
Things can get added. Things can get removed.

00:29:39.339 --> 00:29:42.440
It's like that meme you see everybody posting

00:29:42.440 --> 00:29:44.640
about the gym on January 1st and there's like

00:29:44.640 --> 00:29:46.779
a thousand people in it. And then like January

00:29:46.779 --> 00:29:51.160
3rd and there's two people. Yeah, like we get

00:29:51.160 --> 00:29:53.880
really caught up in fresh starts, new beginnings.

00:29:54.569 --> 00:29:58.690
the new year, and people tend to dive in headfirst.

00:29:58.869 --> 00:30:00.670
And that's great. Like the motivation's great.

00:30:00.710 --> 00:30:03.730
The excitement's great. But that's when we start

00:30:03.730 --> 00:30:05.990
to typically get those unrealistic expectations

00:30:05.990 --> 00:30:09.230
of ourselves. And we just bombard ourselves with

00:30:09.230 --> 00:30:11.329
too many things. And a lot of the people we see

00:30:11.329 --> 00:30:13.289
on social media doing that, I think we also have

00:30:13.289 --> 00:30:15.269
to remember, a lot of those people, that's their

00:30:15.269 --> 00:30:19.769
job. They don't have full -time jobs on top of

00:30:19.769 --> 00:30:21.730
that. That is their job. So they have a lot of

00:30:21.730 --> 00:30:25.819
time. To devote to that and a lot of time and

00:30:25.819 --> 00:30:28.380
ability and effort to put into those things where

00:30:28.380 --> 00:30:31.400
in a realistic world, that's not going to be

00:30:31.400 --> 00:30:33.220
the case for most of us who are also juggling

00:30:33.220 --> 00:30:36.220
jobs and kids and family and extracurriculars

00:30:36.220 --> 00:30:38.720
and sports and all of the other things on our

00:30:38.720 --> 00:30:42.839
plate that we also need to account for. So it's

00:30:42.839 --> 00:30:45.880
OK if things change. It's OK if things come off

00:30:45.880 --> 00:30:47.119
your list. You say, you know what, maybe this

00:30:47.119 --> 00:30:49.160
is too much for this year. Maybe I'm going to

00:30:49.160 --> 00:30:50.859
add that to next year or maybe I'm going to.

00:30:51.150 --> 00:30:53.869
Take that and just do a chunk of it or a portion

00:30:53.869 --> 00:30:58.109
of it and adapt it as you go. It's okay if that

00:30:58.109 --> 00:31:00.029
list has nothing to do with bettering yourself.

00:31:00.569 --> 00:31:02.690
It's okay if that list is literally, I want to

00:31:02.690 --> 00:31:05.009
travel. I want to go on a road trip. I want to

00:31:05.009 --> 00:31:08.190
buy. a pair of shoes. Like it doesn't always

00:31:08.190 --> 00:31:11.730
have to be about changing who you are. And I

00:31:11.730 --> 00:31:13.529
agree. Like those people are, this is their full

00:31:13.529 --> 00:31:15.150
-time job. And you have to remember that even

00:31:15.150 --> 00:31:18.430
small influencers, like even people with 10 to

00:31:18.430 --> 00:31:21.009
50 ,000 followers have managers, have production

00:31:21.009 --> 00:31:22.829
crews, have people helping them come up with

00:31:22.829 --> 00:31:25.230
topics and ideas. Like some of them aren't even

00:31:25.230 --> 00:31:27.710
doing all of the work themselves either. Other

00:31:27.710 --> 00:31:29.829
people are filming and editing and posting those

00:31:29.829 --> 00:31:32.670
videos. So yes, it looks effortless and easy

00:31:32.670 --> 00:31:36.180
and it's social media. You gotta. remember that's

00:31:36.180 --> 00:31:38.619
not what real life looks like. So don't, just

00:31:38.619 --> 00:31:40.259
don't get swept up in it. Do what makes sense

00:31:40.259 --> 00:31:42.519
for you guys and feel confident and okay doing

00:31:42.519 --> 00:31:47.000
it or not doing it. Okay. Some of the other things

00:31:47.000 --> 00:31:50.140
I'm going to post a post about our top episodes

00:31:50.140 --> 00:31:53.279
of 2025, which I think is really, it's going

00:31:53.279 --> 00:31:55.460
to be fun. I'll do like our top 10 episodes of

00:31:55.460 --> 00:31:58.980
last year. It's not all our first episodes, which

00:31:58.980 --> 00:32:01.960
is kind of cool. That is cool. Later ones popped

00:32:01.960 --> 00:32:05.500
in. Thank you to everybody who listened to the

00:32:05.500 --> 00:32:08.819
special Christmas edition. We had, oh boy, we

00:32:08.819 --> 00:32:10.980
have a lot of downloads on it, which really surprises

00:32:10.980 --> 00:32:14.220
me. My mom was just like, oh God, I don't know.

00:32:14.420 --> 00:32:16.059
And I was like, just sit here and talk. It's

00:32:16.059 --> 00:32:19.180
not hard, but it was really good. So thank you

00:32:19.180 --> 00:32:21.059
for all the messages and the support and the

00:32:21.059 --> 00:32:22.740
outpouring. Like that's the first time she's

00:32:22.740 --> 00:32:25.420
ever done anything like that. And I had a lot

00:32:25.420 --> 00:32:27.559
of fun and you were all really supportive of

00:32:27.559 --> 00:32:30.599
it. And it looks like you guys really liked to

00:32:30.599 --> 00:32:33.730
listen to it, which is pretty cool. Love it.

00:32:33.730 --> 00:32:37.730
I discovered some new products, Steph. Cobbs.

00:32:37.730 --> 00:32:40.930
I don't know if Cobbs is in the U .S. or not,

00:32:41.029 --> 00:32:43.970
but we have. I mean, you might. Cobbs bread might

00:32:43.970 --> 00:32:46.430
be in the U .S. I think it is. Okay. Somebody

00:32:46.430 --> 00:32:49.609
let us know. But we have a Cobbs bread, which

00:32:49.609 --> 00:32:52.769
sells bread. Yeah. And they came out with a protein

00:32:52.769 --> 00:32:54.650
bread and I've bought it and I'm going to try

00:32:54.650 --> 00:32:57.410
it today for breakfast. But they just launched.

00:32:57.759 --> 00:33:00.519
protein bread now i don't know the macros on

00:33:00.519 --> 00:33:03.920
the calories or anything but i do know that per

00:33:03.920 --> 00:33:07.579
slice there's 12 grams of protein i love it per

00:33:07.579 --> 00:33:11.460
slice which is crazy it's it's it's cape seed

00:33:11.460 --> 00:33:13.819
i've never heard of cape seed i have no idea

00:33:13.819 --> 00:33:18.420
either it's whole wheat and cape seed and apparently

00:33:18.420 --> 00:33:21.259
because of the seed you get 12 grams of protein

00:33:21.259 --> 00:33:24.779
now perfect i'm and it's super high in fiber

00:33:24.779 --> 00:33:27.640
apparently i'm still trying to find the Still

00:33:27.640 --> 00:33:29.380
trying to find the macros because I, you know,

00:33:29.380 --> 00:33:31.259
when it comes to nuts and seeds and stuff, I

00:33:31.259 --> 00:33:33.059
am a little worried that the calories are through

00:33:33.059 --> 00:33:37.859
the roof. And it probably is. OK, so I have found

00:33:37.859 --> 00:33:40.440
it. Oh, man, I really wish I didn't look this

00:33:40.440 --> 00:33:46.480
up. OK, so two slices. It is 290 calories. However,

00:33:46.819 --> 00:33:50.319
the number one ingredient is flax seeds, sunflower

00:33:50.319 --> 00:33:52.859
seeds, poppy seeds, sesame seeds, then flour.

00:33:53.200 --> 00:33:56.490
So it is. because of all the seeds that the calories

00:33:56.490 --> 00:34:00.150
are high. And the fat's 15 grams. And again,

00:34:00.210 --> 00:34:03.349
that's for two slices. But there's only one gram

00:34:03.349 --> 00:34:05.710
of sugar. There's 10 grams of fiber. There's

00:34:05.710 --> 00:34:08.670
12 grams of protein. There's a bunch of iron.

00:34:10.369 --> 00:34:12.250
I don't know. It's worth trying. I'm going to

00:34:12.250 --> 00:34:14.829
give it a try. It's healthy fats, which is good

00:34:14.829 --> 00:34:16.730
too. But yeah, it is going to amp up the calories.

00:34:16.869 --> 00:34:20.610
But all of the ingredients sound great. They

00:34:20.610 --> 00:34:24.840
sound delicious. So I'm okay with that. Right.

00:34:24.960 --> 00:34:26.699
So I'll give it a try and I'll tell you guys

00:34:26.699 --> 00:34:30.880
how it goes. I'm still documenting Factor, the

00:34:30.880 --> 00:34:33.179
meal service I accidentally ordered and then

00:34:33.179 --> 00:34:37.480
forgot to cancel. It is tasty, but it's too much

00:34:37.480 --> 00:34:40.880
food. I think it's a little maybe a little too

00:34:40.880 --> 00:34:42.760
rich because it's not sitting the best with me

00:34:42.760 --> 00:34:47.000
either. I'm not feeling spectacular after eating

00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:50.320
it. It's good. But I think for bariatric patients,

00:34:50.500 --> 00:34:53.000
I think the calories are too high. I think it's

00:34:53.000 --> 00:34:56.530
too heavy. Yeah, it's too much of a heavy microwave

00:34:56.530 --> 00:35:00.389
meal. And I feel like once you microwave a meal,

00:35:00.530 --> 00:35:02.510
putting it back in the fridge to eat it later,

00:35:02.630 --> 00:35:06.170
it gets weird. So I think I will continue to

00:35:06.170 --> 00:35:09.369
meal prep. I don't think I will be an eating

00:35:09.369 --> 00:35:11.570
factor anymore. But I'll still keep reviewing

00:35:11.570 --> 00:35:14.329
it and let you guys know what I think. But I

00:35:14.329 --> 00:35:16.489
don't think it's the right thing for bariatric

00:35:16.489 --> 00:35:21.010
people, unfortunately. But now you know. We're

00:35:21.010 --> 00:35:23.670
going to keep testing. So we want more reps.

00:35:23.800 --> 00:35:26.059
from you guys, products that you want us to test,

00:35:26.119 --> 00:35:30.079
things that you want us to try. I hear that Bearbells

00:35:30.079 --> 00:35:32.019
is coming out with drinks. I don't know if we'll

00:35:32.019 --> 00:35:34.079
get them in Canada, but I'm curious to try them.

00:35:34.380 --> 00:35:35.780
That'll be the kicker. That'll be the kicker.

00:35:35.800 --> 00:35:38.340
Are we going to be able to get them or not? I

00:35:38.340 --> 00:35:40.300
know. Probably the answer I'm going out with

00:35:40.300 --> 00:35:43.460
is probably not. Probably not. I tried the Fairlife.

00:35:43.500 --> 00:35:45.440
I'm going to put a post up about that. I tried

00:35:45.440 --> 00:35:48.099
the Fairlife shakes. Awesome. Super worth it.

00:35:48.139 --> 00:35:50.360
The price is way lower than everybody else's

00:35:50.360 --> 00:35:53.860
and they taste just like Premier Protein. noticed

00:35:53.860 --> 00:35:56.920
no difference. Does Fairlife have new shakes?

00:35:57.420 --> 00:35:59.880
I meant Kirkland. I was going to say, you've

00:35:59.880 --> 00:36:01.960
had Fairlife before. I've had Fairlife before.

00:36:02.199 --> 00:36:05.619
Costco, Kirkland. Protein. They are like 30 something

00:36:05.619 --> 00:36:08.360
bucks for the pack of 18, I think. And the taste

00:36:08.360 --> 00:36:11.199
is great. Like it's identical to Premier Protein.

00:36:11.199 --> 00:36:14.599
Is Fairlife a bit tastier? Sure. But I find Fairlife

00:36:14.599 --> 00:36:18.760
like really thick. And expensive. And so expensive.

00:36:18.820 --> 00:36:21.320
Like I'm not paying that price. The only downside

00:36:21.320 --> 00:36:23.719
is Kirkland is only available in chocolate right

00:36:23.719 --> 00:36:25.900
now. And I unfortunately really like a vanilla

00:36:25.900 --> 00:36:31.579
because I put it in my coffee. Right. So. Interesting.

00:36:32.179 --> 00:36:35.809
Yeah. And then very last thing on my end, we

00:36:35.809 --> 00:36:38.369
started our sugar reset today. So if anybody

00:36:38.369 --> 00:36:42.230
wants to join, we have a little calendar. Super

00:36:42.230 --> 00:36:45.289
simple. 10 grams of sugar or less per meal per

00:36:45.289 --> 00:36:50.190
snack. No added sugar or try not to have added

00:36:50.190 --> 00:36:52.650
sugar as much as possible. Fruit sugars don't

00:36:52.650 --> 00:36:54.550
count. We encourage you to eat fruit. Fruit's

00:36:54.550 --> 00:36:56.989
not the enemy. Fruit's great. But really, this

00:36:56.989 --> 00:37:00.550
is a way to like maybe stop with the cookies

00:37:00.550 --> 00:37:04.360
and the added sugar. Maybe switch back to sugar

00:37:04.360 --> 00:37:06.960
-free coffee syrup and like no more hot chocolate

00:37:06.960 --> 00:37:10.219
mixed in with my coffee. I did have a couple

00:37:10.219 --> 00:37:11.920
of people message me yesterday that they were

00:37:11.920 --> 00:37:14.880
downloading the Canva from Cassidy. I love it.

00:37:15.059 --> 00:37:17.559
So yeah, I've got at least three or four people

00:37:17.559 --> 00:37:20.219
that messaged me yesterday. I can't wait. Download

00:37:20.219 --> 00:37:22.360
it. Throw a check mark in there. And like, again,

00:37:22.440 --> 00:37:25.110
nuts. Don't aim for perfection. Just aim for

00:37:25.110 --> 00:37:28.409
consistency. It's just to be more aware and more

00:37:28.409 --> 00:37:30.590
cautious. I think the awareness is the thing,

00:37:30.590 --> 00:37:32.710
right? Because you get caught up in it and then

00:37:32.710 --> 00:37:34.530
it's that, well, I'm just having one little thing

00:37:34.530 --> 00:37:36.969
and one little thing and one little thing. And

00:37:36.969 --> 00:37:38.889
then you just kind of lose track. So I think

00:37:38.889 --> 00:37:42.210
it's that visual awareness that is a big thing

00:37:42.210 --> 00:37:43.530
to kind of open your eyes a little bit and be

00:37:43.530 --> 00:37:46.139
like, oh, I was really getting off track. Yep.

00:37:46.139 --> 00:37:48.219
Especially for those who maybe don't use MyFitnessPal

00:37:48.219 --> 00:37:50.039
or track calories. It's just a good way to be

00:37:50.039 --> 00:37:52.539
like, oh, because I got bad over the holidays.

00:37:52.619 --> 00:37:54.719
There was cookies. There was chocolate. There

00:37:54.719 --> 00:37:57.519
was hot chocolate in my coffee. Like, I know

00:37:57.519 --> 00:38:00.440
that for me, that sugar is a struggle. So we're

00:38:00.440 --> 00:38:02.719
going to do a sugar reset and I'm. committed

00:38:02.719 --> 00:38:06.179
to no added sugar for me and 10 grams of sugar

00:38:06.179 --> 00:38:08.360
or less so breakfast already is off to a really

00:38:08.360 --> 00:38:10.780
good start and I'll keep an eye on everything

00:38:10.780 --> 00:38:12.880
else I have I'll be back on the built protein

00:38:12.880 --> 00:38:15.900
bars if I need a sweet treat all the jam is gone

00:38:15.900 --> 00:38:17.920
jam was really big over the Christmas break at

00:38:17.920 --> 00:38:20.460
my house so that's gone I have my sugar -free

00:38:20.460 --> 00:38:23.900
jam I have my sugar -free maple syrup if I want

00:38:23.900 --> 00:38:27.239
a little maple in my coffee and I'm gonna see

00:38:27.239 --> 00:38:29.960
how after 30 days it's gonna be rough there will

00:38:29.960 --> 00:38:32.409
definitely be an adjustment in this week and

00:38:32.409 --> 00:38:34.050
next where I know that I'm going to crave sugar

00:38:34.050 --> 00:38:35.989
and feel like crap and my period's coming and

00:38:35.989 --> 00:38:38.090
I just eat the world and I might look at the

00:38:38.090 --> 00:38:41.349
dog like he's a hamburger but I think it will

00:38:41.349 --> 00:38:44.150
be beneficial and I will have a big test next

00:38:44.150 --> 00:38:48.510
weekend when I'm at my company off -site to not

00:38:48.510 --> 00:38:50.849
give in and that's I think the hardest thing

00:38:50.849 --> 00:38:54.070
is the peer pressure won this season because

00:38:54.070 --> 00:38:55.829
everybody was like you can have a piece like

00:38:55.829 --> 00:38:57.940
you can have a bite of it just a little bit I

00:38:57.940 --> 00:39:00.340
made it for you. I thought you would like it.

00:39:00.360 --> 00:39:03.559
And I was like, OK, all right. OK, thank you.

00:39:03.579 --> 00:39:06.519
And I need to get back to. And God bless my mom

00:39:06.519 --> 00:39:08.780
for listening. Please stop giving me food at

00:39:08.780 --> 00:39:11.500
the holidays. I don't need chocolate. And my

00:39:11.500 --> 00:39:13.199
friends know this. And there's a few of them

00:39:13.199 --> 00:39:15.980
that I might need to very politely remind. Please

00:39:15.980 --> 00:39:19.679
stop buying me chocolate. It's not. it's not

00:39:19.679 --> 00:39:21.900
good for me that you gave me Ferrero Rochers

00:39:21.900 --> 00:39:23.659
or little things of chocolate or this or that.

00:39:23.760 --> 00:39:26.300
What I'd rather have is a pack of Smart Sweets

00:39:26.300 --> 00:39:29.320
or nothing. Totally. My mom stuffed my stocking

00:39:29.320 --> 00:39:32.820
with fava beans, dill pickle, salt and vinegar.

00:39:33.400 --> 00:39:35.400
And I was like, Mom, you listen. I love you.

00:39:35.420 --> 00:39:37.639
Thank you so much. That's awesome. I love that.

00:39:38.559 --> 00:39:42.639
Anything as we end here, Steph, that you are

00:39:42.639 --> 00:39:45.059
trying, testing, eating, anything you want to

00:39:45.059 --> 00:39:49.210
talk bariatric -wise to kick off 2026? I think

00:39:49.210 --> 00:39:52.230
it's just honing in on everything again and just

00:39:52.230 --> 00:39:56.150
kind of regrouping and just really making sure

00:39:56.150 --> 00:39:59.070
that, like we said, we're not getting ahead of

00:39:59.070 --> 00:40:02.909
ourselves and we're not aiming for those unrealistic

00:40:02.909 --> 00:40:06.190
goals. And just, I think it's just consistency

00:40:06.190 --> 00:40:08.190
for me is going to be the big thing. I'm still

00:40:08.190 --> 00:40:11.369
doing, well, not recently, but still doing my

00:40:11.369 --> 00:40:13.269
home workouts. I renewed my membership at the

00:40:13.269 --> 00:40:17.119
gym. I think for me, it's just, again. being

00:40:17.119 --> 00:40:18.920
realistic with myself is going to be the big

00:40:18.920 --> 00:40:22.420
thing for 2026. Um, and just starting to now

00:40:22.420 --> 00:40:25.039
kind of reevaluate things in last year. Like

00:40:25.039 --> 00:40:27.820
we've talked about those first, those first 12

00:40:27.820 --> 00:40:29.739
months after surgery, not that they're easy,

00:40:29.860 --> 00:40:33.099
but there's a lot of things you take advantage

00:40:33.099 --> 00:40:36.539
or you, you not take advantage of, but you just,

00:40:36.539 --> 00:40:38.079
you take for granted. That's what I'm trying

00:40:38.079 --> 00:40:40.840
to say. And where now, now it's okay. Kind of

00:40:40.840 --> 00:40:43.400
honing that in and reining that in and, and realizing

00:40:43.400 --> 00:40:46.579
that. Okay. some of those gifts are not there

00:40:46.579 --> 00:40:49.099
anymore. And so what does that look like moving

00:40:49.099 --> 00:40:53.699
forward? And being humble with myself, being

00:40:53.699 --> 00:40:57.320
consistent with myself, and just really taking

00:40:57.320 --> 00:41:00.900
the time to sit back and reflect, I think is

00:41:00.900 --> 00:41:03.099
going to be a big thing for me in 2026 and focus

00:41:03.099 --> 00:41:05.980
on the little things, focus on the positives,

00:41:06.320 --> 00:41:10.239
focus on... the small things that we often skim

00:41:10.239 --> 00:41:12.340
over or don't take the time to appreciate and

00:41:12.340 --> 00:41:15.099
just kind of slow down a little bit are, I think,

00:41:15.099 --> 00:41:17.219
going to be the things I focus on moving forward.

00:41:17.460 --> 00:41:20.460
Keep my workouts going, renew my membership at

00:41:20.460 --> 00:41:23.440
the gym to switch it up and get some more, yeah,

00:41:23.559 --> 00:41:27.639
get some more variety in there. But I think for

00:41:27.639 --> 00:41:32.360
me, really, it is just taking a step back, taking...

00:41:33.599 --> 00:41:36.059
ownership of of what I can control realizing

00:41:36.059 --> 00:41:39.360
what I can't control um and a lot of things like

00:41:39.360 --> 00:41:41.599
we're talking about being in control that's been

00:41:41.599 --> 00:41:43.360
a big thing with me lately too in my therapy

00:41:43.360 --> 00:41:46.199
sessions is relinquishing some of that control

00:41:46.199 --> 00:41:51.280
so that I can delegate some things to other people

00:41:51.280 --> 00:41:55.000
get some things off my plate to allow me yeah

00:41:55.000 --> 00:41:59.610
to allow me to slow down and And really appreciate

00:41:59.610 --> 00:42:02.610
what's going on in the moment and not get so

00:42:02.610 --> 00:42:05.670
caught up in what needs to be done in the future.

00:42:05.750 --> 00:42:07.789
So I think for me, it's really going to be just

00:42:07.789 --> 00:42:10.010
just slowing down and appreciating things and

00:42:10.010 --> 00:42:14.670
and having that realistic mindset. I love it.

00:42:14.710 --> 00:42:17.190
I am going to echo everything you said. I laughed

00:42:17.190 --> 00:42:19.789
at part of that because that's literally what

00:42:19.789 --> 00:42:21.889
I'm trying to do at work. And I talked to my

00:42:21.889 --> 00:42:24.489
boss about like. delegate delegate delegate and

00:42:24.489 --> 00:42:26.150
it's like yes but I can do it faster and I can

00:42:26.150 --> 00:42:28.170
and it's like you could but like you're taking

00:42:28.170 --> 00:42:31.250
too much on and that is the echo of my life um

00:42:31.250 --> 00:42:34.110
I also want to slow down have more gratitude

00:42:34.110 --> 00:42:36.670
I really want to learn I know it sounds silly

00:42:36.670 --> 00:42:38.809
but I want to learn gratitude like I want to

00:42:38.809 --> 00:42:42.590
learn how to yep not be thinking about the next

00:42:42.590 --> 00:42:44.809
day in the present day and not be thinking about

00:42:44.809 --> 00:42:46.929
next week in the week I'm in. Like I want to

00:42:46.929 --> 00:42:49.409
slow down and stop rushing through my days or

00:42:49.409 --> 00:42:52.190
rushing through my weeks or like just trying

00:42:52.190 --> 00:42:54.909
to get to other things. Like I want to just be

00:42:54.909 --> 00:42:58.230
grateful for having a quiet hour to sit by myself.

00:42:58.369 --> 00:43:01.130
I want to, in running, there's a common saying

00:43:01.130 --> 00:43:04.369
like. You need to go slow to go fast. And when

00:43:04.369 --> 00:43:06.130
you're starting to learn to run, and even when

00:43:06.130 --> 00:43:07.889
you're not, when you're training for ultras or

00:43:07.889 --> 00:43:09.789
long distance, they say you need to run slower

00:43:09.789 --> 00:43:11.369
than you think you do. And you're going to feel

00:43:11.369 --> 00:43:13.570
stupid running how slow you have to run. And

00:43:13.570 --> 00:43:15.530
you don't want to, especially as a baby runner,

00:43:15.670 --> 00:43:18.630
which I am. You cannot listen to that advice.

00:43:18.750 --> 00:43:20.750
Like you just you're trying and you just your

00:43:20.750 --> 00:43:22.730
body isn't listening. And you're like, why am

00:43:22.730 --> 00:43:24.650
I out here running to the point of wanting to

00:43:24.650 --> 00:43:26.989
throw up when they told me to run slow? And you'll

00:43:26.989 --> 00:43:30.190
see really disciplined, good runners understand.

00:43:30.800 --> 00:43:34.239
You got to go slow. You got to really learn pacing.

00:43:34.500 --> 00:43:37.760
And so that's what I want to take into 2026.

00:43:38.300 --> 00:43:41.739
Slow down and learn to appreciate the stillness

00:43:41.739 --> 00:43:44.599
and the slowness and stop rushing because you're

00:43:44.599 --> 00:43:47.480
going to wake up and be 60 one day and go, Jesus

00:43:47.480 --> 00:43:50.980
Christ, why was I? What happened? Like, why was

00:43:50.980 --> 00:43:53.860
I trying? And so for me, I'm going to leave expectations

00:43:53.860 --> 00:43:57.460
behind. I'm going to slow down. It's not that

00:43:57.460 --> 00:43:59.360
this has to be the year I get married and find

00:43:59.360 --> 00:44:00.880
a husband and I have to do this and I have to

00:44:00.880 --> 00:44:02.199
do that. And why don't I have a house yet? And

00:44:02.199 --> 00:44:04.739
I don't stop. This is the year that I learned

00:44:04.739 --> 00:44:07.639
to just slow down and love being in the stillness.

00:44:08.460 --> 00:44:10.880
Love it. It's going to be good. I say that now.

00:44:10.940 --> 00:44:12.260
And then literally in like a week, I'm going

00:44:12.260 --> 00:44:13.840
to be like, it's 900 things that I'm going to

00:44:13.840 --> 00:44:18.659
be doing this year. I'm going to be good. It's

00:44:18.659 --> 00:44:20.659
going to be a good 2026. We want to thank each

00:44:20.659 --> 00:44:22.280
and every one of you for being our listeners

00:44:22.280 --> 00:44:25.139
and chiming in. Keep messaging us and giving

00:44:25.139 --> 00:44:27.460
us suggestions and topics you want to talk about.

00:44:27.579 --> 00:44:29.719
We're going to bring Cass back here soon, but

00:44:29.719 --> 00:44:32.800
we are looking for other people. So send suggestions.

00:44:32.880 --> 00:44:35.440
If you are somebody in the field, if you're a

00:44:35.440 --> 00:44:37.800
dietician, if you're a nutrition, if you are

00:44:37.800 --> 00:44:40.900
somebody that specializes in this or has your

00:44:40.900 --> 00:44:42.980
own podcast about this and you want to join forces

00:44:42.980 --> 00:44:45.699
and do a joint episode, message us, let us know.

00:44:46.019 --> 00:44:49.710
But we are here. weekly for all of 2026 we have

00:44:49.710 --> 00:44:51.989
a website now we're launching a newsletter which

00:44:51.989 --> 00:44:54.130
will be coming at the end of this month we're

00:44:54.130 --> 00:44:56.250
going to start sharing more socially we just

00:44:56.250 --> 00:44:59.469
like you heard us say had a very rough 2025 where

00:44:59.469 --> 00:45:02.429
we were exhausted and did too much but we like

00:45:02.429 --> 00:45:04.269
interacting with all of you and we want to make

00:45:04.269 --> 00:45:08.300
it a bigger priority in 2026 so Thanks for everybody.

00:45:08.420 --> 00:45:11.000
But most importantly, thanks for Steph for just

00:45:11.000 --> 00:45:13.480
being my partner in crime and helping with this

00:45:13.480 --> 00:45:16.739
podcast and being the best co -host ever. I can't

00:45:16.739 --> 00:45:19.719
wait for every episode we do this year. It's

00:45:19.719 --> 00:45:23.199
going to be awesome. Stay tuned. All right. Have

00:45:23.199 --> 00:45:25.980
a great rest of your week. Thanks, guys. And

00:45:25.980 --> 00:45:29.440
we'll see you in two weeks. Peace. Bye.