10 Things We Really Wish We Knew Before Bariatric Surgery

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Hey Steph. Hello. Welcome to another episode

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of Bariatric Banter Podcast. I don't even know

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what number this is anymore. 18. I checked before

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we started because I was like, I also don't remember.

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Clearly I did not. Oh man, yeah, we're coming

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hot off the heels of having a bypass cast on.

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Oh my god, that was so much fun. Oh, it was amazing.

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It was so much fun. it was just good to chat

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with her and like, guys, we're not even going

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to lie. We're going to like fangirl over that

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for weeks, but we think we made a friend and

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we're going to hang out with her and we're going

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to go for dinner. I was just, um, she posted

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us something on her stories the other day about

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doing like a community or like a virtual meetup

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or something. And so I messaged her and we were

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chatting and I just said like, I love this idea.

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And then we got down the spiral. And then again,

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we brought up how we have to have dinner, the

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three of us, because we just have so much to

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talk to you. But yeah, we have to have her back

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again because. I love the fact that she's also

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in Ontario. I love the fact that she had bypassed.

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So she has a bit of a different out view or out

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view. I can't even talk today. Outlook on things.

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She has a bit of a different experience. She's

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a different clinic, but overarching similarities.

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So yeah, I think we have to have her again because

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she was super fun. And I feel like we could have

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talked to her for hours. Hours. hours she's great

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so thanks for tuning into that one let us know

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what episode you want us to bring her back on

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to talk about next but just know she'll probably

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be a probably a frequent guest that we bring

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back onto this old podcast I love it I'm excited

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for today's topic because we wanted to like have

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fun like body dysmorphia is a heavy topic and

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I'm so happy we covered it and found ways to

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make it funny and throw jokes in but um yeah

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Steph and I were like okay let's do something

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I don't know, something kind of lighter, something

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that we're passionate about. So we actually wanted

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to do the top 10 things we wish we both knew

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before bariatric surgery. Hey, yeah, we sat down

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and tried it like cutting it down to 10 things

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guys was hard, very hard. So I was like, but

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what about this? And what about that? We've covered

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other things on the podcast. So we took those

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off the list. But I think we got it down to a

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really good 10 that we want to cover. And so

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this episode is for anybody freaking out before

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surgery or wondering if surgery is the right

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move for them. Like we're going to unpack the

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top 10 things that we wish someone had told two

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of us before we underwent surgery. That just,

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yeah, I think it's good to hear before surgery.

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Good to hear if you're, even if you're post -op,

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listen to this, or if you're debating bariatric

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surgery, it's going to be a good episode. Take

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them into consideration. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. The

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top 10 things we wish we knew before bariatric

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surgery. Here's the question, Steph. Do we start

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with 10 and work our way up or do we start with

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one and work our way down? Let's go 10 to one.

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10 to one? Let's go 10 to one. All right. Yeah,

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because I think one is the most important one.

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So, okay. Number 10. Here we go. This isn't the

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end of your journey. It's the beginning. So true.

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I think it's a good one. I really like that one

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because I feel like you think, all of the appointments

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and the waiting and all of that is the journey.

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And then the surgery feels like the finish line.

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It feels like the end goal, but you have no,

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not that you don't have an idea of what's to

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come, but I don't think going into surgery, you

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fully understand the amount of changes that are

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coming your way. The amount of mind shifts, physical,

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like you just don't get it until you're in it

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and until you experience it. And there's so much

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more on the other side. Exactly. And like, you

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hear us say this all the time. Surgery is just

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a tool. It's a tool. It's not a magic wand. It's

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not a fairy godmother. It's a tool. So you're

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still doing all this hard work. So sitting and

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having the surgery is not the end of your weight

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loss journey at all. Literally the first step.

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It is the beginning of. so many highs and lows,

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way more highs than you'll ever have lows, but

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like just a new way of living and doing. And

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surgery is just simply the start of that journey,

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not the end. And you're going to do it with support

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and a community behind you and lots of other

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things. But yeah, this isn't leading up to surgery

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is not the journey and surgery is not the finish

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line. It's called the loser's bench. So if you

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ever hear us comment that it's not that we're

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calling you a loser. The loser's bench is like

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you're finally being called up. Because it's

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time for you to start losing the weight. You're

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now on the loser's bench. So yeah, think about

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it that way, that it's not the end of a journey.

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It's really the beginning of a ton of new things

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for you. It's the beginning of a whole new, a

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whole new you. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. I agree.

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I did not look at it that way before. No, I didn't

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either. I was like, oh, I'm done. Like it was

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a year in the program and now I can have surgery

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and like, then I'm done. It's like, oh no, the

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lead up to surgery is 1%. The 99 % starts the

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day you leave that hospital. So yeah, it is not

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the end of a journey at all. It is literally

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the beginning of the next step. Agreed. Number

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nine. Oh, this one hits me today, let me tell

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you. The scale won't always move. No, it'll go

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up. But your body is. Can you tell I'm bitter

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about this today? I know. It'll go up. No, and

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this always happens. I started a new workout

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program. It's intense. And again, this is where

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I message Hannah all the time. And I know that

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it's not scientifically possible to gain two

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pounds overnight from when you're in a calorie

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deficit. But from, what's today, Thursday? From

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Tuesday to Thursday. The scale has gone up 2

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.2 pounds. Wow. Right? So number one, not cool.

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No. Not cool. But that's when like normal 100%.

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And I know for myself, anytime I start a new

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program, anytime I do something new, anytime

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I change up my workouts, anytime I change up

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my food for the first few days, it goes up. And

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I also had four. three or four days of big whooshes

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before this. So I also know that anytime that

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happens, I go up. But the scale will either,

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like it says, not always move. You'll be the

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same weight or within like 1 .1 or two for days,

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or it'll go up. And that's when you have to remind

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yourself. of all of the mental things. And that's

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when I messaged Hannah and has to remind me that

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it is not possible when you're only eating 800

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calories a day to gain two pounds overnight.

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Exactly. Water weight, it's inflammation, it's

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your muscles. It's all of those things. Everything.

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Remember too, like you're going to have surgery.

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You're going to stand on the scale a few days

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after surgery and probably have gained weight.

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And then you're going to be like, what in the?

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Oh, that was the worst. Your organs are inflamed.

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Your muscles are inflamed. Your stomach is swollen.

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They pumped you full of air. The scale won't

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always move, but your body... So what we mean

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by that is inches lost is far more important

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than pounds dropped. Because remember, you're

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always going to have skin until you choose to

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get rid of it or keep it, whatever. We'll cover

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that in an episode. But you'll always have loose

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skin and that's weight. You'll have water weight.

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You'll have weight before your period. You'll

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have hormonal fluctuations. You'll have muscles.

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Muscles weigh way more than fat. So as you become

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a more healthy, active person and you start working

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out every day, which for a lot of us was not

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the case before surgery. because now you have

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to put in a minimum of 30 minutes a day. Yeah,

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you're gaining muscle that you never had before

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and it weighs more. So that's why progress will

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become your best friend. Having photos to look

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at, you know, that'll hype you the fuck up. Inches

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lost is always important, but even years post

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-op. I still message Steph going, God damn it.

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I can't get the scale to go anywhere. And then

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all of a sudden, and it feels like all of a sudden,

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but really the truth is I kept to my exercise

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routine and I, you know, boom, there go those

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four pounds that I could not get rid of, which

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yay, by the way, Steph, I finally, finally cracked

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it. I'm fine. I'm not in the one sixties yet,

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but I'm like a pound away and I can't. It's consistency,

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consistency, consistency all the way. And the

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pictures, I'm so bad at that. And the days when

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I have like today, when I step on the scale and

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I say inappropriate words under my breath are

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the days when I should go do that. And so for

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me, this app, I'm not affiliated with this app

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in any way, but there's an app called Me360,

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like T -H -R -E -60. And it'll do a full body

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scan of you and then it will take your measurements

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for you and then you can compare them in a chart

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week over week or whatever you want. So I've

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been using that and I'm actually do I've been

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doing it. I've been trying to do it on a monthly

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basis. But I should have done it today after

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I had that scale incident, because that's when

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you get that kind of smack in the face of let's

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be real here. Yes. Things are moving in the right

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direction. Things are moving in the right direction.

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You have to understand that this is a marathon,

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not a sprint. And this is a marathon for a life,

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not a sprint. You're probably not going to hit

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that goal weight in your first year. It's totally

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fine if you hit it within three years. I am still

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working towards my goal weight and I still get

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discouraged, but then remind myself like I'm

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still very early into this journey. The bigger

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thing is that I am moving my body. The bigger

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thing is just that. Who cares what the scale

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says? I need to continue to move my body because

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I know eventually it will do what I need it to

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do. I'm eating in a calorie deficit. I'm following

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my meal plan and I'm exercising. I know that

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this will continue if I move my body, but giving

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up is not the answer. So number nine, the scale

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won't always move, but your body is. Inches lost

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is more important than pounds dropped. Agreed.

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Yep. Number eight. This one. This one is driving

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me bonkers right now. I think this is like this.

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I remember this one. Number eight, nothing fits

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right during the in -between phase. Yep. And

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it doesn't. You're either going to feel frumpy

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dumpy or you're going to buy something that's

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slightly too small and then feel really pissed

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off and self -conscious. Yep. And there's nothing

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in between. There's not like every now and then

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you'll get that kind of like, this is perfect.

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And then literally it's not going to last. Yep.

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Literally. So when did I, when did I message

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you? I was shopping for jeans. So I had that

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problem. My clothes were all too big. I had my

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one pair of jeans that I found in my closet that

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were my one day I'll wear these jeans. And I

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was wearing them, which was fantastic. Made me

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super happy. But then I hit the point where even

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those jeans were too big. And that's just that

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you start looking frumpy. You start looking just

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not put together. Things are hanging on you.

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So I said, okay, I'm going to go buy. Just a

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couple pairs of jeans, like one or two pairs

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of jeans to get me through a couple shirts. But

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again, I don't want to go buy all new clothes

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because I'm still losing. So I bought the jeans

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and I am wearing one of them right now. I bought

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them, I don't know, two, three weeks ago, maybe.

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They don't fit. They are too big. I'm constantly

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pulling them up. They're loose. They're hanging.

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And I'm sitting here, I'm like, I just. bought

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these. Like, I'm super happy that I'm making

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progress and losing weight, but are you shitting

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me? I just bought these. I have worn them four

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times, four times and they now don't fit. And

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I'm just like, it's, it's funny because it's

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so frustrating and it makes me so mad. And I'm

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going to say almost kind of discouraging in a

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way, but then I sit here going, Steph, you would

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norm previously, you would have been. begging

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to be in this situation. You would have been

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so excited to put on a pair of pants that were

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too big. And now I'm sitting here pissed that

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my pants are too big. So it's a very weird place

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to be in. I do have lots of leggings still because

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some days that's just all that works. But it

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is a very it's an awkward experience to go through

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because you want to be super excited and super

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happy. But it's also super frustrating. Super

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fucking frustrating. And so like, and it will

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happen to everybody. The in -between phase is

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like the most noticeable phase. So we always

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kind of say like, don't go out and buy a new

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wardrobe. Gosh, no. If it makes you happy, like

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do what makes you happy. But our advice is like,

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you will go buy this brand new wardrobe and continue

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to lose weight and then be like, I didn't get

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to wear it. I bought this beautiful winter coat

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from Costco and I was so excited. It was this

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DKNY like hunter green coat and I got to wear

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it once. And then I was like, you've got to be

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shitting me. I bought this beautiful red floor

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length, like double breasted coat. Didn't get

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to wear it once. And I was like, no, like I was

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so mad at myself. And that's when I realized

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like I should have been thrifting. I should have

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gotten over this. I shouldn't have spent a great

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ton of money. I liked buying things that were

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too small because I liked being able to put them

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on and then go, whoa. And I still do it. I do

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have something where I'm like, holy cow, it kind

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of fits. I can do it. Which is so cool. But yeah,

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the in -between phase is the worst. Like now,

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at least I know I'm also in between sizes right

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now, which is super annoying. That's tough too.

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I'm a nine right now. And I'm like, nobody makes

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a nine, either be a 10 or an eight. And eight

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is like. I can do it, but maybe obese flashbacks

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where I feel like I look really like like a sausage

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and a casing in it. And then a 10 is like, cool,

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great. Like, look at the space between my butt.

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Like, you know, I've got this buggy butt problem

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now. Yeah, it's a little too big. And then you

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kind of go, oh, I don't like looking like I'm

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wearing clothes that are too big because that's

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great. Because you want to show off and feel

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with your success and you want to feel good in

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your success. And wearing baggy clothes feels

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like you're just hiding yourself again. Yes.

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And so that's been a little bit of like a ha.

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So the in -between phase hits anybody, no matter

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where you're at. And so our advice on this one

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is live in leggings. Not a single person's going

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to judge you. Leggings, that was the best thing

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I invested in was like good, good leggings, because

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man, those will grow and shrink with your body

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and still look really flattering. Plus they'll

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hold in the loose skin, the apron belly, the,

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you know, tight arms, saddlebags. yeah so invest

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in stretchy clothing get some belts like hey

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you're gonna wear now but just know we all feel

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like this we all went through this you're gonna

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buy something and never wear it you're gonna

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buy something and forgot you bought it and then

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by the time you can put it on it's too big You're

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going to buy clothes that are small. And that

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was my advice to you was if you found something

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you liked, don't buy it for the body you have

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right now. Buy it for the body you're going to

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have soon because you're going to want to wear

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it. And it feels really weird because you're

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like, well, why would I buy a small? I will never

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be a small. You will be one day. And so if you

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really, really like it and it's not an I need

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it right now thing, buy it smaller because you

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will fit into it. But in your first year, don't

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invest in. winter coats super fancy dresses really

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nice stuff thrift wear leggings wear things that

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will adjust to your body changing and just know

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this will end but also there was a you that dreamed

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of being in this situation exactly number seven

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this one an episode on this one but this one

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was important to put in here this is telling

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people or not comes with baggage either way and

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i and It's funny because it's such a personal

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decision, but obviously then we're a little biased

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because we chose a certain route for a certain

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reason. I think, I don't know, for me, and like

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you said, we did a whole episode on this, but

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for me it came down to accountability as a big

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reason as to why I put it on social media. and

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why I shared it to that extent was because if

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I put it out there and people knew, then I knew

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they were going to be expecting results. And

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I knew that I had to show up because people would

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be watching, whether it's because they agreed

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with it or not, they'd be watching. And part

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of it for me was to, because I knew I had people

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in my life who didn't agree with the decision

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or weren't fully on board. And that stubborn

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part of me was like, okay, you watch. You watch,

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you watch. I'll prove you wrong. I'll show you

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why. I'll show you I can do it. Which again,

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I think leads into that accountability too, right?

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So for me, that was the biggest thing. And then

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at the end of the day, it was a hard decision.

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It wasn't like I instantly knew. I thought I

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struggled with it for a while. But at the end

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of the day, my thing is people are going to notice.

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Like people knew that I was fat for a long time

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and people knew that I was working out. not really

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seeing results. And if I all of a sudden show

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up and I'm a hundred pounds lighter, well, it's

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going to be pretty obvious that I'm a hundred

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pounds lighter, right? And I don't want to lie

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about it. Exactly. And, um, I think the thing

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to remember is if you tell them or you don't

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tell them there's baggage, right? So Tell them

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if you want to tell them, just know that there

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are going to be people who have reactions that

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you cannot control. So don't let their reaction

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derail you. They can overreact for a multitude

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of reasons. You're bettering yourself. People

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don't like when you better yourself. It is like

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an inherent reaction. I don't know why it is

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the way the humans react, but it is the way that

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a lot of them react. It's not on you. It's more

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subconscious about them. But if you don't choose

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to tell people. it's still going to have baggage.

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People are going to be whispering, making comments,

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asking about a Zempik. Are you dying? Do you

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have an illness? It is going to be what it is.

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People are curious. They're nosy. They're annoying.

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You just have to deal with it and move on. Do

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not let anybody's feedback or comments, whether

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you hear them or you hear about them, derail

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your journey. Everybody goes through this that

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has bariatric surgery. You do have supporters,

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but you also do have a lot of criticism and critics.

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And you know what we say to them? Fuck you. And

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you move on. Yeah. You have to do what's best

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for you at the end of the day. Everyone has an

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opinion. They're like assholes. Everyone has

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an opinion. Choose your circle wisely and gatekeep

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your journey if it makes sense. Yeah. There's

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nothing wrong with it. You have to do what is

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best for you at the end of the day. And only

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you know what that is. Perfect. Number six. This

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one's funny, but also funny because... This could

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get totally TMI, depending on how we go. But

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number six of the 10 things we wish we knew before

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surgery. Constipation is no frigging joke. It's

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real, folks. It is real. It's no joke, especially

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in those early days where you're going to be

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like, is it normal for a human to not poop for

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a whole week? I never, TMI, I never went that

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long in my life without pooping. No, same. I

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had the opposite problem before surgery where

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I was like, constipation is not going to happen

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to me. And then I was like, I texted my mom being

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like, how long am I supposed to go without pooping?

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Cause like I Googled like, when is it dangerous

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to not have pooped? So like the one thing you

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need to remember is especially like before surgery

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or on an all liquid diet and then after surgery,

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you're supposed to. be adhering to the rules

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that you're on another liquid diet while you're

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healing so if your body is only taking in liquid

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and very little like there's nothing to work

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with no you're not dying you don't have impacted

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bowels no don't have anything going wrong you

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don't need to rush to your doctor and be like

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oh no my bowels must not be working just pause

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and breathe for a hot minute especially in the

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first week or two yes it's going to be weird

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off It's not going to be normal because you're

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just drinking liquid. If you don't have any excruciating

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pain and like super abnormal bloating below your

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abdomen, you're probably okay. We're not medical

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people. So if you think you have an impacted

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bowel, you go forth and talk to your doctor.

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But it's super important to take stool softeners

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in the first month after surgery. at least in

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our program, like they sent us home with stool

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softeners. And then they also prescribe laxatives.

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They tell you to drink Metamucil. But yeah, you're

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only on liquids. You're on like on clear liquids

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even then, right? So you're having chicken broth

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and watered down apple juice. You're not putting

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much sustenance into your body. It's very minimal

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amounts. So there's nothing. to come out um to

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come out no it's gonna take a while and I remember

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I got my like pick up my prescriptions after

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surgery got my stool softeners and then um no

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I didn't get the stool softeners at first Devin

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brought my stuff home and I pulled out my Prevacid

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and I pulled out everything else and then he

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handed me like this bottle of laxative and I

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was like what is this he's like oh this is what

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the pharmacist gave me they said you don't need

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the stool softeners just use this and I was like

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no I'm pretty sure I need to take what like is

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prescribed. And so I had the follow -up appointment

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or I made him go back and get the stool softeners.

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And then I had a follow -up appointment on the

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phone call the next day. And I said, I'm like,

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yeah, the pharmacy also gave me this. Like, should

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I take this laxative instead of the stool softeners?

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And I remember the lady saying like, no, like

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let's start small. Like we don't need to go right

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for the can and water gun. But I remember, I

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remember, right. I remember being worried too,

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because I'm like, okay, it's been days, like

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nothing's, nothing's coming here. And then I

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remember them saying, they explained it and basically

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saying like, there's nothing, your body's not

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pulling anything out of this liquid to eliminate

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from your body. So don't worry if you're not

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going like you used to go. And it's also the

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anesthetic. from surgery messes with your body

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the stress the inflammation please listen to

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them when i tell you to go buy fiber like you

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absolutely need to buy fiber so that's the advice

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here is like i didn't i had to run out by the

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metamucil which does not taste good but you need

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have it and be putting it into your clear liquids,

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which you are allowed to do, but by the Metamucil,

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it'll help so much. Take your stool softeners,

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no joke on those, take them. And again, if you're

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suffering, call your doctor and talk to them,

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but just know poop is going to become the new

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normal thing that you talk about in those first

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couple of hours. Every appointment, have you

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pooped? It doesn't matter if you did not have

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that habit before. You will now have constipation.

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Like, do not think that you will be unique and

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special. It doesn't matter what your bowel habits

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looked like before. Congratulations. These are

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going to be different. And if you don't take

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those stool softeners and fiber, you're going

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to have the worst pain. You'll be crying in the

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bathroom. You'll be crying in the bathroom. Number

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five, your taste buds will betray you. Yes. That

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one is so true. It's so true. And that's why

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we tell people all the time, don't stock up on

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food pre -surgery. And it's not like some people's

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taste buds will stay the same. Not everybody's

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will change. But there is this thing that happens

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where certain things don't taste the same or

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they don't have the same flavor or they don't

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feel the same. They don't bring you the same

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joy that they used to bring you. There's a lot

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of people too who, you know, they used to have

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a really big sweet tooth and now they don't.

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Or they used to crave sweet and now they crave

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salty. So that's why we always say don't stock

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up pre -surgery on certain kinds of protein shakes

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or certain kinds of Gatorade or whatever it may

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be. Buy a little bit because there's going to

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be things that you are going to try. Exactly.

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That you're not going to like anymore. That protein

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shake that you're obsessed with now, you will

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hate it. I know a lot of friends are going to

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be like, oh, hey, I bought like good protein.

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Come here, try it. I love it. It's my favorite.

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It doesn't matter if you love it right now before

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surgery. I can guarantee you, you will just hate

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it after surgery. And it can be things that aren't

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even protein. It could be carrots, eggs, certain

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types of meat. There are just going to be things

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that you're like. So my example is always crystal

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light before surgery was the most disgusting

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shit I've ever had in my life. And I would tell

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people how disgusting it was. And I never understood

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how people liked crystal light. I am now obsessed

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with it. Like fly through boxes of crystal light.

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because I think it's the best tasting thing I've

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ever had. There are definitely things that you

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will just no longer be able to palate because

00:25:22.890 --> 00:25:25.509
your taste buds have completely changed. For

00:25:25.509 --> 00:25:27.390
some people, it's vegetables. For some people,

00:25:27.430 --> 00:25:29.589
it's other things. For me, red meat is just no

00:25:29.589 --> 00:25:33.029
longer something that is craving or sitting super

00:25:33.029 --> 00:25:34.809
well. But there's a lot of other things that

00:25:34.809 --> 00:25:37.089
I really like now that honestly, like I'm really

00:25:37.089 --> 00:25:39.089
into spicy things. We'll talk about it if we

00:25:39.089 --> 00:25:41.369
have time, if we do a bonus round. But yeah,

00:25:41.470 --> 00:25:44.299
just know. Do not buy things before surgery.

00:25:44.460 --> 00:25:47.180
Do not stock up on them. I can't stress enough

00:25:47.180 --> 00:25:49.240
how much your taste buds change. It's a weird

00:25:49.240 --> 00:25:53.059
phenomenon, a very weird one. But what you think

00:25:53.059 --> 00:25:55.819
you like now, you will not leave surgery liking.

00:25:56.000 --> 00:25:58.200
And I cannot stress enough when it comes to protein.

00:25:58.319 --> 00:26:01.660
Do not load up on the $90 bag of protein from

00:26:01.660 --> 00:26:05.420
Costco and protein bars because you probably

00:26:05.420 --> 00:26:09.299
will not like these post -surgery. No, it's funny.

00:26:09.400 --> 00:26:11.539
I had a, we talk about protein bars a lot. I

00:26:11.539 --> 00:26:12.720
mean, I don't think I told you this because it

00:26:12.720 --> 00:26:16.480
was just the other day. I had a bear bell and

00:26:16.480 --> 00:26:19.339
I hadn't had a bear bell in ages and I loved

00:26:19.339 --> 00:26:22.019
them. Pre -surgery, anyone who would go to Trader

00:26:22.019 --> 00:26:24.319
Joe's, I would get them to buy me like a bag

00:26:24.319 --> 00:26:27.859
of bear bells. I had one the other day. Couldn't

00:26:27.859 --> 00:26:29.920
finish it. No, can't do it. Could not finish

00:26:29.920 --> 00:26:35.559
it. Spicy food, can't do it anymore. I can do

00:26:35.559 --> 00:26:38.579
like a minimal, like I can do Frank's. But anything

00:26:38.579 --> 00:26:42.420
above Frank's, can't do it anymore. Lamb. We

00:26:42.420 --> 00:26:44.539
used to eat lamb like at special occasions at

00:26:44.539 --> 00:26:47.140
Easter and stuff. I had lamb at Easter and I

00:26:47.140 --> 00:26:49.140
was so excited because I hit my six months. I

00:26:49.140 --> 00:26:51.980
could have red meat again. I had lamb and it

00:26:51.980 --> 00:26:55.339
smelled so good. It was my mom's lamb. I love

00:26:55.339 --> 00:26:59.099
it. Had three bites. Game over. Nope. Didn't

00:26:59.099 --> 00:27:01.359
like it. Didn't taste the same. Couldn't do it.

00:27:02.039 --> 00:27:04.599
So yeah, just don't go bananas thinking you're

00:27:04.599 --> 00:27:06.740
going to stock up. You have to trial and error.

00:27:07.210 --> 00:27:09.349
You're also not special. So if you think it's

00:27:09.349 --> 00:27:11.730
not going to happen to you, it will. If you have

00:27:11.730 --> 00:27:13.509
somebody who's had surgery, that's like, no,

00:27:13.650 --> 00:27:17.089
not like, again, don't. They are the rare, rare,

00:27:17.190 --> 00:27:20.529
rare, rare exception to this rule. Also, what

00:27:20.529 --> 00:27:23.089
influencers promote is not what they usually

00:27:23.089 --> 00:27:25.950
use. And American tastes are completely different

00:27:25.950 --> 00:27:28.250
than Canadian tastes. They grew up on a lot of

00:27:28.250 --> 00:27:30.190
artificial sweeteners and sugars, and they like

00:27:30.190 --> 00:27:32.509
things very, very sweet in the States. Where

00:27:32.509 --> 00:27:35.990
I find in Canada, we don't. So I do not and cannot.

00:27:36.519 --> 00:27:38.339
have a lot of the protein that you see these

00:27:38.339 --> 00:27:40.500
bariatric influencers promote. We've taste tested

00:27:40.500 --> 00:27:43.259
them. We've tried them and Lord almighty, they

00:27:43.259 --> 00:27:46.599
are just not great. So yeah, your taste buds

00:27:46.599 --> 00:27:48.559
are going to betray you. So just know that going

00:27:48.559 --> 00:27:50.960
into it and know that there's going to be things

00:27:50.960 --> 00:27:55.460
that you will be buying. Yep. Um, number four,

00:27:55.599 --> 00:27:57.619
this one was, I don't know, maybe controversial,

00:27:57.700 --> 00:28:00.740
but not because I agree with it. Funerals are

00:28:00.740 --> 00:28:05.859
real and you actually don't need them. I agree.

00:28:06.250 --> 00:28:09.869
You don't need it. This trend of, oh, I'm going

00:28:09.869 --> 00:28:14.150
to do this big hurrah, the last supper. The mindset

00:28:14.150 --> 00:28:16.869
of I have to mourn what I'm giving up is a terrible

00:28:16.869 --> 00:28:19.369
mindset to go into this surgery with. And it

00:28:19.369 --> 00:28:23.309
goes back to the whole stereotypes of this surgery

00:28:23.309 --> 00:28:25.789
of, and I have people ask me this all the time,

00:28:25.990 --> 00:28:27.750
are you going to have to eat like this forever?

00:28:28.049 --> 00:28:30.730
And I'm like, first of all, and it was mainly

00:28:30.730 --> 00:28:32.670
during the first six months when there are certain

00:28:32.670 --> 00:28:35.259
restrictions of food you cannot eat. At least

00:28:35.259 --> 00:28:38.240
for our program, right? Correct. And so I explained

00:28:38.240 --> 00:28:41.339
to people, no, it's just right now. I cannot

00:28:41.339 --> 00:28:43.519
have a hamburger or red meat or whatever it is.

00:28:43.799 --> 00:28:47.619
And once that's over, and this is a hot topic

00:28:47.619 --> 00:28:49.619
too, and people have different views on it, but

00:28:49.619 --> 00:28:54.940
in theory, we'll say physically speaking, you

00:28:54.940 --> 00:28:57.720
can eat everything you ate pre -surgery. Physically

00:28:57.720 --> 00:29:00.079
speaking. Now, should you? That's a different

00:29:00.079 --> 00:29:03.130
story. But you can eat everything. You can't

00:29:03.130 --> 00:29:05.630
eat super sugary or super fatty, especially if

00:29:05.630 --> 00:29:07.170
you had bypass because you could get dumping

00:29:07.170 --> 00:29:09.349
syndrome. But in the grand scheme of things,

00:29:09.589 --> 00:29:12.549
I've seen people too. I saw a video the other

00:29:12.549 --> 00:29:14.210
day of this girl who was having surgery. And

00:29:14.210 --> 00:29:16.769
so she went out the week before her pre -op diet

00:29:16.769 --> 00:29:19.849
started and she had pizza and poutine and nachos

00:29:19.849 --> 00:29:22.809
and all the things because she said, I'm going

00:29:22.809 --> 00:29:25.170
to miss them after surgery. And I was sitting

00:29:25.170 --> 00:29:29.450
there going. Why? You can have some poutine.

00:29:29.470 --> 00:29:32.009
You can have some pizza. You can have some nachos.

00:29:32.130 --> 00:29:34.210
Are you going to have them to the same extent

00:29:34.210 --> 00:29:37.569
you had them before? You shouldn't. Are you maybe

00:29:37.569 --> 00:29:41.130
going to make some swaps? Sure. But nothing is

00:29:41.130 --> 00:29:46.769
off. It's not a diet. And it goes back to the

00:29:46.769 --> 00:29:48.549
good food, bad food discussion we've had before.

00:29:49.230 --> 00:29:51.309
But nothing is off the table. You don't have

00:29:51.309 --> 00:29:53.750
to go into it with this mindset of, I have to

00:29:53.750 --> 00:29:55.109
eat this now because I'll never have it again.

00:29:55.680 --> 00:29:58.380
No, you just probably won't have a whole medium

00:29:58.380 --> 00:30:01.880
pizza to yourself because you never, you shouldn't.

00:30:02.440 --> 00:30:05.140
But my kids had, where were we the other day?

00:30:05.220 --> 00:30:07.799
We were at some event and one of them had a poutine.

00:30:07.960 --> 00:30:11.180
Did I have two bites of the poutine? Sure did.

00:30:11.819 --> 00:30:16.099
But then was I fine? Yep. Like it's this whole

00:30:16.099 --> 00:30:19.819
mentality of I can never have this again. That's

00:30:19.819 --> 00:30:22.720
not the mindset you want to have because that's

00:30:22.720 --> 00:30:24.619
what's going to lead you to fail. That's what's

00:30:24.619 --> 00:30:26.539
going to lead you to the bin. That's what's going

00:30:26.539 --> 00:30:29.019
to lead you to that. Oh, I shouldn't have ever

00:30:29.019 --> 00:30:31.900
had surgery. I know you want to have this funeral

00:30:31.900 --> 00:30:33.940
and you want to mourn the things and you want

00:30:33.940 --> 00:30:36.160
to have that last hurrah. And I want to eat this

00:30:36.160 --> 00:30:37.700
thing that I'm not going to be able to have again.

00:30:37.779 --> 00:30:39.940
And like, I do get it. There'll be a lengthy

00:30:39.940 --> 00:30:41.759
period of time before you can have some of this

00:30:41.759 --> 00:30:44.559
food again, but just be cautious because you're

00:30:44.559 --> 00:30:48.380
subconsciously setting up a notion of good food

00:30:48.380 --> 00:30:50.859
versus bad food, but also. It's kind of like

00:30:50.859 --> 00:30:53.579
I am obsessed and hooked on this so much that

00:30:53.579 --> 00:30:55.960
I have to mourn the loss of it. Because then

00:30:55.960 --> 00:30:58.660
what that turns into is craving and craving and

00:30:58.660 --> 00:31:01.960
craving and the inability to think about anything

00:31:01.960 --> 00:31:06.559
but food. So I didn't do a food funeral. I didn't

00:31:06.559 --> 00:31:10.119
do anything like that. I think I had a chicken

00:31:10.119 --> 00:31:13.380
delight from Penalty Box in Windsor. And I just

00:31:13.380 --> 00:31:15.099
remember thinking like, oh, we haven't had that

00:31:15.099 --> 00:31:16.940
in a while. Be kind of cool to have one of those.

00:31:17.019 --> 00:31:19.119
And it wasn't. food funeral it was because I

00:31:19.119 --> 00:31:21.740
probably can't have this again for a bit so and

00:31:21.740 --> 00:31:23.599
I haven't had one yet but like probably going

00:31:23.599 --> 00:31:25.400
to get one when I go home for my dad's birthday

00:31:25.400 --> 00:31:27.559
I won't be able to eat the whole thing but there's

00:31:27.559 --> 00:31:30.140
no reason you can't have a chicken pita but yes

00:31:30.140 --> 00:31:32.819
you will be able to eat normally again you will

00:31:32.819 --> 00:31:34.680
be able to eat things again what you have to

00:31:34.680 --> 00:31:37.859
be cautious of is in moderation don't turn these

00:31:37.859 --> 00:31:40.660
into like I can't live without them foods and

00:31:40.660 --> 00:31:44.259
also don't have a mournful funeral for food go

00:31:44.259 --> 00:31:47.440
into this in a celebratory what I did before

00:31:47.440 --> 00:31:49.400
surgery was a good friend offered to do a photo

00:31:49.400 --> 00:31:51.319
shoot with me and she said I want to do a photo

00:31:51.319 --> 00:31:53.720
shoot of you so that you can have these for after

00:31:53.720 --> 00:31:56.119
and then after surgery we should do a follow

00:31:56.119 --> 00:31:59.019
-up photo shoot and so I did a lot of like celebratory

00:31:59.019 --> 00:32:02.240
like I celebrated myself I took the photos I

00:32:02.240 --> 00:32:05.420
talked about being excited for surgery I got

00:32:05.420 --> 00:32:09.220
the house ready I actually bought pre or post

00:32:09.220 --> 00:32:12.279
-surgery clothes. Um, as in like, this is going

00:32:12.279 --> 00:32:15.039
to be my like recovery outfit from Puma. It was

00:32:15.039 --> 00:32:17.559
cute and I wanted it. So I had something to put

00:32:17.559 --> 00:32:19.720
on when I got home and look forward to it. So

00:32:19.720 --> 00:32:22.680
you do you, but just know that your life doesn't

00:32:22.680 --> 00:32:25.420
revolve around food after surgery. And I think

00:32:25.420 --> 00:32:28.839
having a food funeral can do more harm than good.

00:32:28.920 --> 00:32:31.279
And, um, there's probably just a better way to

00:32:31.279 --> 00:32:34.059
spend your time before surgery. It's my, my last

00:32:34.059 --> 00:32:37.319
thought on that one. Nope. Totally agree. Number

00:32:37.319 --> 00:32:41.799
three. Okay. The first week post -op might suck.

00:32:43.220 --> 00:32:47.460
You know what? It might. It might. I'm going

00:32:47.460 --> 00:32:51.900
to say it didn't. For me. For some people, it

00:32:51.900 --> 00:32:55.220
might. You might have pain, regret. Regret can

00:32:55.220 --> 00:32:57.660
set in for some people. Like, what did I get

00:32:57.660 --> 00:32:59.559
myself into? Is this how I'm going to eat for

00:32:59.559 --> 00:33:01.759
the rest of my life? I can't survive like this.

00:33:02.279 --> 00:33:05.839
It's tough in the sense, I think, of... For me

00:33:05.839 --> 00:33:13.400
at least, it was tough trying to hit my hydration

00:33:13.400 --> 00:33:18.599
goals. That was tough. Just getting into a new

00:33:18.599 --> 00:33:22.240
routine, having my little sip of one ounce every

00:33:22.240 --> 00:33:25.559
15 minutes and tracking that. But realistically,

00:33:25.759 --> 00:33:30.000
looking back on it, I chilled on the couch. I

00:33:30.000 --> 00:33:31.819
watched TV. I went for my little walks around

00:33:31.819 --> 00:33:38.220
the driveway, hung out. It wasn't tough. It was

00:33:38.220 --> 00:33:41.380
different. It was an adjustment. I'll say that.

00:33:41.480 --> 00:33:44.940
It was an adjustment. But I don't remember sitting

00:33:44.940 --> 00:33:47.279
there being like, oh my God, this is so hard.

00:33:47.559 --> 00:33:49.759
I also didn't have regrets in the first week.

00:33:49.819 --> 00:33:52.519
I was really excited. I was moving. I was walking,

00:33:52.720 --> 00:33:55.000
grooving. I knew that this wasn't going to be

00:33:55.000 --> 00:33:56.920
life forever, but also I didn't care because

00:33:56.920 --> 00:33:59.160
I was no longer hungry. I didn't want to binge

00:33:59.160 --> 00:34:02.880
eat. I felt good. However, this could be what

00:34:02.880 --> 00:34:05.190
happens to you as well. But if it doesn't, please

00:34:05.190 --> 00:34:07.930
know that that's okay too. It is a way for you

00:34:07.930 --> 00:34:10.670
to have pain, to have regret, for you to wake

00:34:10.670 --> 00:34:12.789
up and say, oh my God, what did I just do to

00:34:12.789 --> 00:34:15.469
myself? I don't think I can handle this. That

00:34:15.469 --> 00:34:18.150
is normal. So while Steph and I tell you we had

00:34:18.150 --> 00:34:21.190
a different experience, it is so overwhelmingly

00:34:21.190 --> 00:34:25.630
normal to cry, to regret your decision, to feel

00:34:25.630 --> 00:34:28.150
like it's really too much and how am I going

00:34:28.150 --> 00:34:30.610
to do it? That's such normal human behavior.

00:34:30.769 --> 00:34:34.449
It's a huge amount of anxiety. Breathe, because

00:34:34.449 --> 00:34:36.869
this won't be your life forever. We'll help you

00:34:36.869 --> 00:34:38.429
get through it. Others will help you get through

00:34:38.429 --> 00:34:41.170
it. But just remember to breathe. Sip your water.

00:34:41.289 --> 00:34:44.130
Try to walk a little. Cry if you need to. Sleep

00:34:44.130 --> 00:34:47.010
and recover and recharge. And just know that

00:34:47.010 --> 00:34:49.510
what you're going through is temporary, even

00:34:49.510 --> 00:34:52.030
if you're going through the worst of it. Even

00:34:52.030 --> 00:34:55.590
if it's vomit or pain, it is so temporary. And

00:34:55.590 --> 00:34:58.909
that if you talk to people... post -op after

00:34:58.909 --> 00:35:02.170
a year or two years, the overwhelming percentage,

00:35:02.349 --> 00:35:05.489
like 99 % of them all say, I have zero fucking

00:35:05.489 --> 00:35:08.610
regrets and wish I did this sooner. So just remember

00:35:08.610 --> 00:35:11.369
that when you are stuck a few months post -op

00:35:11.369 --> 00:35:13.409
or a few weeks post -op and you're feeling regret,

00:35:13.650 --> 00:35:17.030
most people do and that's totally okay. But once

00:35:17.030 --> 00:35:19.969
they get to a year post -op, Every single one

00:35:19.969 --> 00:35:22.090
of those people say, I wish I did this sooner.

00:35:22.150 --> 00:35:24.590
I have no regrets. This was the best thing I

00:35:24.590 --> 00:35:27.269
did for myself. So you can get through this.

00:35:27.409 --> 00:35:30.590
And if it's no pain and awesome, or if there's

00:35:30.590 --> 00:35:33.469
pain and regret, both are super normal in your

00:35:33.469 --> 00:35:35.670
first week. So just know that the first week

00:35:35.670 --> 00:35:37.969
might suck. It might not be like Steph and I,

00:35:38.050 --> 00:35:40.130
and there's nothing wrong with you and nothing

00:35:40.130 --> 00:35:43.550
has gone wrong. It's just normal. Everybody's

00:35:43.550 --> 00:35:45.809
experience is their own, right? It's individual

00:35:45.809 --> 00:35:49.230
thing. And that does not to say that. there weren't

00:35:49.230 --> 00:35:52.769
hard days or hard moments but i think as i've

00:35:52.769 --> 00:35:59.989
said before overall this this surgery was i'm

00:35:59.989 --> 00:36:01.809
gonna say compared to what i thought in my head

00:36:01.809 --> 00:36:04.329
a walk in the park because i was so stressed

00:36:04.329 --> 00:36:07.590
about the surgery um but like we said with number

00:36:07.590 --> 00:36:10.719
10 that's that's just the start of the journey,

00:36:10.820 --> 00:36:13.519
right? It's the stuff that comes afterwards where

00:36:13.519 --> 00:36:15.380
you have to put in the work and the effort and

00:36:15.380 --> 00:36:17.760
the changes happen and things start to go. Um,

00:36:17.920 --> 00:36:20.300
but everybody's journey is their own and, and

00:36:20.300 --> 00:36:22.460
that's okay. There are no two paths or journeys

00:36:22.460 --> 00:36:25.079
that are going to look exactly the same. Exactly.

00:36:25.739 --> 00:36:29.440
Um, number two, the pre -op diet will test every

00:36:29.440 --> 00:36:33.880
ounce. Oh my gosh. It's okay. This, this sucked

00:36:33.880 --> 00:36:36.960
the week, the week after surgery. Totally cool.

00:36:37.099 --> 00:36:40.880
This was the worst pre -op liquid diet. Sucked.

00:36:40.880 --> 00:36:42.880
Absolutely sucked. It will test. There's no nice

00:36:42.880 --> 00:36:45.400
way to put it. Of your willpower. And just remember,

00:36:45.500 --> 00:36:47.219
it's not about weight loss. So the whole goal

00:36:47.219 --> 00:36:49.260
of the pre -op diet is not that you start dropping

00:36:49.260 --> 00:36:51.519
pounds or because they lose weight. It's literally

00:36:51.519 --> 00:36:53.619
just to shrink your liver. So it's out of the

00:36:53.619 --> 00:36:56.000
way for surgery. So for some of you, that's four

00:36:56.000 --> 00:36:57.940
weeks. For some of you, it's two. It doesn't

00:36:57.940 --> 00:37:00.400
matter because we all feel the same. We're fucking

00:37:00.400 --> 00:37:02.760
grumpy. We're fucking cranky and we're going

00:37:02.760 --> 00:37:04.820
to break and eat what we want to eat. So one

00:37:04.820 --> 00:37:07.119
thing I'll say is. People cheat on this diet.

00:37:07.179 --> 00:37:09.360
It happens. Don't beat yourself up. I personally

00:37:09.360 --> 00:37:12.119
think it's normal. I ate dill pickles. I also

00:37:12.119 --> 00:37:15.000
made scrambled eggs. I couldn't do it. I started

00:37:15.000 --> 00:37:17.619
to fucking lose my mind and break down. And I

00:37:17.619 --> 00:37:20.179
had to. It did not impact my surgery. I'm not

00:37:20.179 --> 00:37:22.199
advocating you. Don't follow the rules. I'm just

00:37:22.199 --> 00:37:25.159
saying if you break, please be kind to yourself

00:37:25.159 --> 00:37:28.679
because I think literally everybody broke. I

00:37:28.679 --> 00:37:31.610
find some people. are just you know pious and

00:37:31.610 --> 00:37:33.590
great and didn't but the vast majority of us

00:37:33.590 --> 00:37:35.949
have had a moment especially because we've never

00:37:35.949 --> 00:37:39.050
in our life had to do this and we haven't had

00:37:39.050 --> 00:37:41.630
surgery yet so we are bodies that have been used

00:37:41.630 --> 00:37:43.469
to consuming three to four thousand calories

00:37:43.469 --> 00:37:46.650
a day now being put onto a 900 calorie liquid

00:37:46.650 --> 00:37:50.710
only diet and the shakes suck uh yeah you're

00:37:50.710 --> 00:37:52.530
gonna hit a day where you're like i don't give

00:37:52.530 --> 00:37:55.539
a fuck I make scrambled eggs. And that was me.

00:37:55.780 --> 00:37:58.119
Dill pickles are zero calorie, by the way. So

00:37:58.119 --> 00:38:00.199
if you want to eat them dill pickles, I recommend

00:38:00.199 --> 00:38:02.699
it. It's a good crunch. It's got sodium. Some

00:38:02.699 --> 00:38:05.699
clinics will let you have sugar -free jello,

00:38:05.820 --> 00:38:09.059
bone broth, and dill pickles or celery because

00:38:09.059 --> 00:38:10.920
they're zero sugar and it's still going to help

00:38:10.920 --> 00:38:15.280
shrink your liver. But the hardest fucking part

00:38:15.280 --> 00:38:17.739
about this whole journey was the two -week pre

00:38:17.739 --> 00:38:21.760
-op diet. Yeah. So just to, because I know programs

00:38:21.760 --> 00:38:26.449
are different. Our program was two weeks of OptiFast.

00:38:26.570 --> 00:38:29.050
For some. For some, it's four in our program.

00:38:29.429 --> 00:38:34.269
For us, two weeks of OptiFast drinks. And then

00:38:34.269 --> 00:38:36.809
you could have water. You could have decaf coffee

00:38:36.809 --> 00:38:41.690
or herbal tea. And that was it. So it was prepackaged

00:38:41.690 --> 00:38:44.929
shakes. You could add flavoring to them, meaning

00:38:44.929 --> 00:38:49.239
like... vanilla extract, maple extract. You couldn't

00:38:49.239 --> 00:38:51.059
add fruit. You couldn't add that kind of stuff.

00:38:51.340 --> 00:38:53.400
Um, I'm going to say, I'm going to toot my own

00:38:53.400 --> 00:38:56.360
horn. I did not cheat on mine. I almost did a

00:38:56.360 --> 00:38:58.460
couple of times. There were a couple of times

00:38:58.460 --> 00:39:00.840
when I remember sitting there, I said, there's

00:39:00.840 --> 00:39:02.239
one particular, I remember sitting on the couch

00:39:02.239 --> 00:39:06.079
and I was just like head in my hands sitting

00:39:06.079 --> 00:39:07.559
there and Devin looks at me. He's like, are you

00:39:07.559 --> 00:39:09.639
okay? And I just remember looking at him being

00:39:09.639 --> 00:39:12.099
like, I'm not going to make it. I'm not, I'm

00:39:12.099 --> 00:39:13.750
not going to make it. And he's like, just go

00:39:13.750 --> 00:39:15.329
have something. And I was like, nope. I'm like,

00:39:15.329 --> 00:39:17.150
I'm going to prove to him I'm not going to do

00:39:17.150 --> 00:39:19.090
it. Nope. But I remember sitting there just being

00:39:19.090 --> 00:39:23.010
like, I can't. I cannot do this. Because I had

00:39:23.010 --> 00:39:26.230
cut out coffee. You're not having sugar. You're

00:39:26.230 --> 00:39:29.070
only having, I think it's 900 calories when you

00:39:29.070 --> 00:39:33.570
add it all up. You're tired. You are, oh, I was

00:39:33.570 --> 00:39:36.829
so snippy. I was so snippy and short -tempered.

00:39:37.050 --> 00:39:38.909
You're grouchy. You have headaches. Like, it's

00:39:38.909 --> 00:39:43.480
not fun. It's not fun. So I remember that being

00:39:43.480 --> 00:39:48.039
significantly harder than the week after. And

00:39:48.039 --> 00:39:49.940
I remember too, like you trying to mix these

00:39:49.940 --> 00:39:52.460
gross drinks with flavors. And then like we talked

00:39:52.460 --> 00:39:54.539
about the orange creamsicle one. I was like,

00:39:54.599 --> 00:39:56.980
this is going to be so good. And then you make

00:39:56.980 --> 00:39:59.219
it and it's disgusting, but you have to drink

00:39:59.219 --> 00:40:02.400
it because you only have so many shakes and you're

00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:05.139
not giving up one of those shakes to go down

00:40:05.139 --> 00:40:08.659
to only three shakes a day. Definitely not. So

00:40:08.659 --> 00:40:10.139
I remember a couple of times too, sitting there

00:40:10.139 --> 00:40:12.159
and just having to drink these things that, man,

00:40:12.199 --> 00:40:17.519
they were not, they were no bueno. But if you

00:40:17.519 --> 00:40:20.500
can get through that, and even if you have the

00:40:20.500 --> 00:40:23.500
pickles and the eggs and whatever, it's not going

00:40:23.500 --> 00:40:25.559
to ruin your progress. It's not going to ruin

00:40:25.559 --> 00:40:28.820
your surgery. It's not like they're going to

00:40:28.820 --> 00:40:31.030
go in there and be like, oh. She had scrambled

00:40:31.030 --> 00:40:33.510
eggs last week. Surgery's over. You shouldn't

00:40:33.510 --> 00:40:35.510
be eating pizza and full meals. You shouldn't

00:40:35.510 --> 00:40:39.130
be replacing shakes with meals. Just know that

00:40:39.130 --> 00:40:40.829
like having a bite of something here and there

00:40:40.829 --> 00:40:44.369
because it's not going to derail your surgery.

00:40:44.389 --> 00:40:46.489
The hardest part of your journey will be the

00:40:46.489 --> 00:40:49.530
two -week liquid diet. But you will waver. You

00:40:49.530 --> 00:40:52.070
will have moments of being tired, being cranky,

00:40:52.070 --> 00:40:54.090
not wanting to drink those motherfucking shakes

00:40:54.090 --> 00:40:57.139
anymore. So just know. I absolutely agree with

00:40:57.139 --> 00:40:59.179
that. Taking the number two spot. I wish someone

00:40:59.179 --> 00:41:01.099
had prepared me for how hard that was going to

00:41:01.099 --> 00:41:03.420
be and how much I just needed to take my mind

00:41:03.420 --> 00:41:05.780
off things. But also the more busy you are does

00:41:05.780 --> 00:41:08.599
not do anything about the hunger. It doesn't

00:41:08.599 --> 00:41:10.360
really help. If anything, I should have just

00:41:10.360 --> 00:41:12.460
taken time off work to just maybe sit around

00:41:12.460 --> 00:41:14.400
the house and play video games or just like have

00:41:14.400 --> 00:41:17.000
a passion project. Busying myself with friends

00:41:17.000 --> 00:41:19.159
and activities actually did nothing. It didn't

00:41:19.159 --> 00:41:22.670
help. It made me more hungry. So do what you

00:41:22.670 --> 00:41:24.429
got to do to get through it, but just know, yes,

00:41:24.489 --> 00:41:26.510
we all had a really hard time with it. Yes, it's

00:41:26.510 --> 00:41:29.010
a struggle. No, that's not what surgery is like

00:41:29.010 --> 00:41:31.510
because you are pre -op at that point. After

00:41:31.510 --> 00:41:35.269
surgery, you don't have that insatiable, undeniable,

00:41:35.409 --> 00:41:38.849
I'll eat the cat if I have to craving. It was

00:41:38.849 --> 00:41:41.469
the hardest part, hands down. Hands down. If

00:41:41.469 --> 00:41:46.929
you can make it through the pre -op, in my mind,

00:41:46.949 --> 00:41:49.880
you're good. You can do it. You can do it. The

00:41:49.880 --> 00:41:53.039
number one thing. So the top 10 things we wish

00:41:53.039 --> 00:41:57.820
we knew before surgery. Number one. Two and one

00:41:57.820 --> 00:42:00.800
were kind of a toss up, but it's more mental

00:42:00.800 --> 00:42:04.280
than physical. A thousand percent. You are not

00:42:04.280 --> 00:42:08.320
just losing weight, guys. You're not just losing

00:42:08.320 --> 00:42:10.820
weight. You are literally trying to rewrite for

00:42:10.820 --> 00:42:14.380
some of us 20, 30, 40 years of habits, coping

00:42:14.380 --> 00:42:18.769
mechanisms, and our entire identity. You, I can

00:42:18.769 --> 00:42:22.489
almost guarantee when you are, I'm not even going

00:42:22.489 --> 00:42:24.190
to say done this because I'm only six months

00:42:24.190 --> 00:42:27.489
out. I'm nowhere near done. You will not be the

00:42:27.489 --> 00:42:32.170
same person you were when you started. And now,

00:42:32.309 --> 00:42:34.630
I mean, there are some people who, as we've seen,

00:42:34.730 --> 00:42:37.769
take this surgery for granted. They think it's

00:42:37.769 --> 00:42:40.670
a magic pill. I'm not looping those people into

00:42:40.670 --> 00:42:42.550
this because they clearly are not doing what

00:42:42.550 --> 00:42:46.210
needs to be done. But if you are. following the

00:42:46.210 --> 00:42:48.050
guidelines and the rules you were given, if you

00:42:48.050 --> 00:42:50.250
are making the changes that you need to make,

00:42:50.449 --> 00:42:53.949
you are becoming a whole new person. You are,

00:42:54.030 --> 00:42:57.690
like Hannah said, you're rewriting years of bad

00:42:57.690 --> 00:43:02.050
habits, of history. The surgery does not, I talked

00:43:02.050 --> 00:43:04.349
about this on my Instagram yesterday, the surgery

00:43:04.349 --> 00:43:08.139
does not affect your brain. The surgery doesn't

00:43:08.139 --> 00:43:10.320
get rid of the food noise. The surgery doesn't

00:43:10.320 --> 00:43:12.500
fix your relationship with food. It doesn't fix

00:43:12.500 --> 00:43:14.780
your binge eating, your boredom eating. It doesn't

00:43:14.780 --> 00:43:17.159
fix looking in the mirror and telling yourself

00:43:17.159 --> 00:43:22.059
you're fat and you're ugly. That is all on you.

00:43:22.820 --> 00:43:27.059
That is all additional work that has to be done.

00:43:27.260 --> 00:43:32.480
Yes. Yeah, like it's so much more. So, so, so

00:43:32.480 --> 00:43:35.300
much more than just losing weight. The losing

00:43:35.300 --> 00:43:37.079
weight is moving your body, the exercise, the

00:43:37.079 --> 00:43:40.099
eating, but that. is almost the easiest part

00:43:40.099 --> 00:43:42.860
to this. Like, first of all, therapy is not optional.

00:43:43.039 --> 00:43:45.420
It is absolutely something that you need to invest

00:43:45.420 --> 00:43:47.460
in and have when you're going through this, because

00:43:47.460 --> 00:43:49.860
we did not just become obese overnight. You've

00:43:49.860 --> 00:43:51.639
heard me say this. You didn't just catch an obesity

00:43:51.639 --> 00:43:53.460
disease and then you were fat and you had no

00:43:53.460 --> 00:43:56.079
control over it. It is our eating habits. It's

00:43:56.079 --> 00:43:58.039
our coping habits. It's our social life. Like

00:43:58.039 --> 00:44:00.380
even it's, it has nothing to do with being depressed

00:44:00.380 --> 00:44:03.139
or happy or anything. Like it's how you celebrate.

00:44:03.500 --> 00:44:05.679
It's how you show love. You'll often hear people

00:44:05.679 --> 00:44:09.800
say, Oh, I show love through food. I get that,

00:44:09.860 --> 00:44:11.860
but you definitely need to find a new way to

00:44:11.860 --> 00:44:14.760
show people how you care because a lot of that

00:44:14.760 --> 00:44:17.219
has gotten you where you are. And it just kind

00:44:17.219 --> 00:44:20.699
of perpetrates this notion that food is love.

00:44:20.780 --> 00:44:22.920
The center of everything. Food is for depression.

00:44:23.139 --> 00:44:24.920
Food is for happiness. Food is for celebration.

00:44:25.119 --> 00:44:27.079
Food is for grief. Food is for love. Food is

00:44:27.079 --> 00:44:29.900
for, like, you have to rewire your way of thinking.

00:44:29.940 --> 00:44:33.139
And you'll even see people. who are pre -op getting

00:44:33.139 --> 00:44:35.500
together or even some that are early days post

00:44:35.500 --> 00:44:36.880
-op. And it's like, well, everyone's going to

00:44:36.880 --> 00:44:38.380
bring something to eat. Right. And it's like,

00:44:38.380 --> 00:44:40.320
that's some of the things that you have to deal

00:44:40.320 --> 00:44:42.539
with is why is it every time you hang out with

00:44:42.539 --> 00:44:44.480
your friends, there needs to be food. Why is

00:44:44.480 --> 00:44:46.940
everything we do involved eating and not even

00:44:46.940 --> 00:44:49.420
just like. It's eating all the time, right? So

00:44:49.420 --> 00:44:51.800
there's a lot of things that you have to learn

00:44:51.800 --> 00:44:54.539
to set boundaries on for the first time in your

00:44:54.539 --> 00:44:56.780
life that you usually have never done. You have

00:44:56.780 --> 00:44:58.840
to be cautious of slider foods and maybe make

00:44:58.840 --> 00:45:00.780
decisions not to keep them in the house anymore.

00:45:01.019 --> 00:45:04.739
Like it's not easy. The coping mechanisms is

00:45:04.739 --> 00:45:06.780
the hardest thing that people cope like find

00:45:06.780 --> 00:45:10.219
dealing with here. If you're celebrating, it's

00:45:10.219 --> 00:45:12.940
not with food. If you're depressed, shouldn't

00:45:12.940 --> 00:45:15.340
be with food. If you're bored. Find something

00:45:15.340 --> 00:45:18.300
to do. If you're bored, food. And like, so for

00:45:18.300 --> 00:45:21.079
me, a big thing was when I would play video games,

00:45:21.219 --> 00:45:23.559
I would bring a bunch of stuff onto the couch

00:45:23.559 --> 00:45:25.579
and load up. And like, I would get so excited

00:45:25.579 --> 00:45:28.780
about playing video games. And I would find myself

00:45:28.780 --> 00:45:30.440
after surgery being like, oh my God, I'm going

00:45:30.440 --> 00:45:32.159
to sit down and play video games tonight. And

00:45:32.159 --> 00:45:34.139
instantly my mind would be like, so I should

00:45:34.139 --> 00:45:37.739
get snacks. Because you get an instant endorsement

00:45:37.739 --> 00:45:39.920
rush. You get like, oh, the cortisol is spiking

00:45:39.920 --> 00:45:42.119
and I'm so excited about being able to do this.

00:45:42.199 --> 00:45:44.400
And then it's like. I don't need snacks to play

00:45:44.400 --> 00:45:46.099
video games with the guys and to have a good

00:45:46.099 --> 00:45:48.599
time or my snacks should look different. It's

00:45:48.599 --> 00:45:51.039
now, you know, cucumber slices and cottage cheese.

00:45:51.059 --> 00:45:53.480
And maybe it's a protein drink. Like there are

00:45:53.480 --> 00:45:56.320
just things that I had to realize, like I paired

00:45:56.320 --> 00:45:58.739
dopamine hits and feeling really good with wanting

00:45:58.739 --> 00:46:01.980
food or working out with rewarding myself with

00:46:01.980 --> 00:46:05.219
food. Boredom. I was a boredom eater. Me too.

00:46:06.260 --> 00:46:09.719
Let's eat. You must be hungry. So I do that test,

00:46:09.739 --> 00:46:12.039
right? If I'm craving like, let's go get Doritos.

00:46:12.599 --> 00:46:14.440
OK, well, if you're hungry, just have an apple.

00:46:14.539 --> 00:46:17.159
And if you don't want to, you're not hungry,

00:46:17.400 --> 00:46:21.280
you're craving or you're bored. So this is the

00:46:21.280 --> 00:46:24.360
hardest part. The physical part you think will

00:46:24.360 --> 00:46:26.440
be the hardest. It's not. Moving my body is so

00:46:26.440 --> 00:46:28.480
easy now and getting out is something I love

00:46:28.480 --> 00:46:30.500
to do. And it's so instinctively a part of my

00:46:30.500 --> 00:46:33.820
day. Meal prepping, calorie counting, the mental

00:46:33.820 --> 00:46:37.619
side of things, especially when something hits

00:46:37.619 --> 00:46:40.760
you. So it's a bit easier when it's you and you're.

00:46:41.130 --> 00:46:44.090
But then you get sick or someone passes away,

00:46:44.170 --> 00:46:47.250
God forbid, or work gets really stressful or

00:46:47.250 --> 00:46:49.869
you break up with someone. You'll often see posts

00:46:49.869 --> 00:46:51.809
on Reddit of people who have gained all their

00:46:51.809 --> 00:46:53.869
weight back or fallen off. And they're like,

00:46:53.909 --> 00:46:55.670
I don't know how this happened. And so Reddit

00:46:55.670 --> 00:46:57.510
will dig in and say, well, you know, and they'll

00:46:57.510 --> 00:47:00.090
say things like, well, I lost my job or my significant

00:47:00.090 --> 00:47:03.449
other broke up with me or, you know, my big life

00:47:03.449 --> 00:47:06.030
event. There's something that triggers this.

00:47:06.690 --> 00:47:09.289
zero caring because you think you can't gain

00:47:09.289 --> 00:47:11.510
weight anymore. And the truth is you can. And

00:47:11.510 --> 00:47:14.190
once you start that slippery slope, your body

00:47:14.190 --> 00:47:16.929
wants to immediately and your mind wants to go

00:47:16.929 --> 00:47:20.250
back. Your mind will betray you because it really

00:47:20.250 --> 00:47:22.550
wants you to go back to your old eating habits,

00:47:22.630 --> 00:47:26.170
to your old coping mechanisms. It takes, this

00:47:26.170 --> 00:47:28.230
is why you need a therapist. It takes a very

00:47:28.230 --> 00:47:30.710
long time to rewire your brains. Ask anyone who

00:47:30.710 --> 00:47:33.849
suffers from depression or anxiety or OCD, like

00:47:33.849 --> 00:47:36.760
they are trying to rewire their, their. logical

00:47:36.760 --> 00:47:39.039
pathways because you know they shouldn't have

00:47:39.039 --> 00:47:41.320
anxiety over certain things but it's not as easy

00:47:41.320 --> 00:47:43.639
as just saying don't be anxious about this they

00:47:43.639 --> 00:47:46.139
have to learn a new way of thinking so that their

00:47:46.139 --> 00:47:48.699
body doesn't react anxiously to those triggers

00:47:48.699 --> 00:47:51.159
the same goes for everybody listening that's

00:47:51.159 --> 00:47:53.800
about to have surgery or has had surgery you

00:47:53.800 --> 00:47:55.760
can't just will your way out of these things

00:47:55.760 --> 00:48:00.300
you literally need to build new coping mechanisms

00:48:00.300 --> 00:48:03.489
relationships with food and lifestyle changes.

00:48:03.570 --> 00:48:05.710
And that might mean that you have to be the person

00:48:05.710 --> 00:48:08.070
that says, hey guys, do we have to go out for

00:48:08.070 --> 00:48:11.909
dinner? Could we go for a walk? Could we go bowling?

00:48:12.010 --> 00:48:14.469
Could we do something that doesn't revolve around

00:48:14.469 --> 00:48:18.250
food? Because my life can't revolve around food

00:48:18.250 --> 00:48:22.369
anymore. I'm trying to build new identities and

00:48:22.369 --> 00:48:24.829
pathways. Yeah. I'm also the person that will

00:48:24.829 --> 00:48:27.949
bring my own food. So if I am going somewhere

00:48:27.949 --> 00:48:31.699
and I know that food is going to be a thing I'll

00:48:31.699 --> 00:48:35.300
bring my protein bar or I'll bring my baby bell

00:48:35.300 --> 00:48:38.860
and whatever I will make sure that I have good

00:48:38.860 --> 00:48:43.579
choices prepared to keep me on track but yeah

00:48:43.579 --> 00:48:45.880
like board a meeting for sure there's reasons

00:48:45.880 --> 00:48:47.800
why we ended up in the position we are and like

00:48:47.800 --> 00:48:49.719
Hannah said we didn't get there every night habits

00:48:49.719 --> 00:48:51.900
are hard to build and habits are hard to break

00:48:51.900 --> 00:48:56.320
and once they are so ingrained in you undoing

00:48:56.320 --> 00:49:02.309
those years of wiring is so difficult. And like

00:49:02.309 --> 00:49:04.769
the surgeon said, the first year of the surgery

00:49:04.769 --> 00:49:07.210
is my gift to you because you will lose weight,

00:49:07.289 --> 00:49:11.010
but it's all the other stuff that is on you.

00:49:11.409 --> 00:49:13.530
And it's all the other work that if, if you're

00:49:13.530 --> 00:49:15.289
not prepared to do it, and that's why we say

00:49:15.289 --> 00:49:17.530
it's not a magic pill. If you think you're just

00:49:17.530 --> 00:49:19.130
going to have this surgery and everything in

00:49:19.130 --> 00:49:22.369
your life is going to be fixed, you're not ready

00:49:22.369 --> 00:49:25.409
for the surgery. And this is why this made number

00:49:25.409 --> 00:49:27.989
one on the list of the 10 things that we wish

00:49:27.989 --> 00:49:32.289
we knew before surgery, that literally the hardest

00:49:32.289 --> 00:49:34.510
part of this will be the mental journey, not

00:49:34.510 --> 00:49:37.489
the physical. Because I think, maybe I speak

00:49:37.489 --> 00:49:39.969
for myself, but I think being obese, to me, the

00:49:39.969 --> 00:49:41.409
thing was like the hardest thing to me seemed

00:49:41.409 --> 00:49:43.630
like the movement and maybe the dieting. I was

00:49:43.630 --> 00:49:45.690
like, oh, that's going to be, oh, that's going

00:49:45.690 --> 00:49:48.000
to be the hardest part. And it's like. No, man,

00:49:48.079 --> 00:49:51.300
it's giving up your old habits because boy, when

00:49:51.300 --> 00:49:53.579
people tell you that the old habits come back

00:49:53.579 --> 00:49:56.780
hard, they absolutely do. Like you're going to

00:49:56.780 --> 00:49:58.800
be doing well and thinking that nothing can take

00:49:58.800 --> 00:50:01.320
you down. And then all of a sudden you're going

00:50:01.320 --> 00:50:03.500
to be like, Oh, why am I creating this? Oh, why

00:50:03.500 --> 00:50:05.980
did I eat that? Oh no. What's got like, it's

00:50:05.980 --> 00:50:09.599
so easy. so easy to go back to old habits and

00:50:09.599 --> 00:50:12.679
that's why regain is so popular it's not popular

00:50:12.679 --> 00:50:14.460
it's a horrible way to say it but why regain

00:50:14.460 --> 00:50:17.679
is so prevalent in this community because i tell

00:50:17.679 --> 00:50:19.599
stuff all the time i think this is the hardest

00:50:19.599 --> 00:50:23.059
year for me post -surgery this is The regain

00:50:23.059 --> 00:50:25.480
can happen to a lot of people in this year. If

00:50:25.480 --> 00:50:27.000
you can make it through this year, you're probably,

00:50:27.079 --> 00:50:29.739
you know, really established well. But like this

00:50:29.739 --> 00:50:32.380
is the hardest because I realize like I can kind

00:50:32.380 --> 00:50:34.380
of eat whatever I want to eat still in small

00:50:34.380 --> 00:50:37.119
sizes. But like I could fall off the wagon really

00:50:37.119 --> 00:50:42.420
easily, like really easily and just start gaining

00:50:42.420 --> 00:50:45.760
weight. And it's really easy to also be like,

00:50:45.800 --> 00:50:47.500
I don't need to work out as much as I did. Like

00:50:47.500 --> 00:50:49.139
I already lost all the weight. I can be kind

00:50:49.139 --> 00:50:51.000
of lax about working out. I don't need to walk

00:50:51.000 --> 00:50:53.820
every day. And like, that's what happens. These

00:50:53.820 --> 00:50:57.219
little tiny things sneaking in where you're like,

00:50:57.260 --> 00:50:59.420
but I've already lost all the weight. I can eat

00:50:59.420 --> 00:51:02.719
this. And it's like, sure, you could eat it.

00:51:02.739 --> 00:51:04.820
But are you eating it once a month? Or is it

00:51:04.820 --> 00:51:07.469
now like, oh, every week I've had it. You know,

00:51:07.510 --> 00:51:11.050
my gelato story. I get the little tiny like thimble

00:51:11.050 --> 00:51:13.750
kids cup of gelato once a month. I allow myself

00:51:13.750 --> 00:51:15.949
to take my neighbor and go, do you want to get

00:51:15.949 --> 00:51:19.349
gelato? If I didn't keep an eye on that, I could

00:51:19.349 --> 00:51:21.289
guarantee you I'd be eating gelato every frigging

00:51:21.289 --> 00:51:23.650
day. So I know to some people they're going to

00:51:23.650 --> 00:51:25.889
be like, that sounds horrible. Not really. The

00:51:25.889 --> 00:51:27.690
gelato is great. It's a treat. I know it's a

00:51:27.690 --> 00:51:29.670
trigger for me. I try to keep on track and make

00:51:29.670 --> 00:51:33.170
sure because it's really easy for all of this.

00:51:33.500 --> 00:51:36.340
bad habits to come back in. That's why tracking

00:51:36.340 --> 00:51:38.699
is important too. Because then you think, well,

00:51:38.739 --> 00:51:40.800
I don't have to track my food anymore. I know

00:51:40.800 --> 00:51:43.739
what I'm doing. It's fine. And then before you

00:51:43.739 --> 00:51:46.320
know it, you're back. Because people think when

00:51:46.320 --> 00:51:49.400
you have surgery, you can't eat anymore. Yeah.

00:51:49.460 --> 00:51:52.300
That's not it. That's not the case. A hundred

00:51:52.300 --> 00:51:53.900
percent not true. Or there would be no regain.

00:51:54.300 --> 00:51:58.119
So if you hit that point, you're like, I'm good.

00:51:58.199 --> 00:52:00.000
I had my surgery on my weights off. I did the

00:52:00.000 --> 00:52:02.199
work. I can just cruise now. And then before

00:52:02.199 --> 00:52:05.389
you know it. You're eating 3000 calories a day,

00:52:05.530 --> 00:52:08.469
3 ,500 calories a day. And we're right back to

00:52:08.469 --> 00:52:12.369
where we started. Correct. So it's, that's the

00:52:12.369 --> 00:52:14.010
big thing you need to keep in mind here is it's

00:52:14.010 --> 00:52:16.829
not magic. You absolutely positively can go back

00:52:16.829 --> 00:52:20.230
to eating exactly the way you did before. Like,

00:52:20.750 --> 00:52:23.760
but I didn't eat bad before. Stop it. There's

00:52:23.760 --> 00:52:25.800
a reason that we were obese. Okay. We're not

00:52:25.800 --> 00:52:28.119
a little overweight. We were obese and there's

00:52:28.119 --> 00:52:30.519
a reason. And if you want to pretend like it's

00:52:30.519 --> 00:52:32.599
because of something else, like it's calories

00:52:32.599 --> 00:52:35.500
in calories out, it is your eating habits. I

00:52:35.500 --> 00:52:38.960
didn't get to a size 22 eating salad. Yeah. I

00:52:38.960 --> 00:52:43.239
didn't get to a size 224 because I was still

00:52:43.239 --> 00:52:45.679
eating 1200 calories a day. And like, it was,

00:52:45.679 --> 00:52:52.030
come on guys. So. this is why you need to talk

00:52:52.030 --> 00:52:53.690
to a therapist you need to have some hard truths

00:52:53.690 --> 00:52:55.829
with yourselves and you need to you need to just

00:52:55.829 --> 00:52:58.670
be a little brutally honest with yourself because

00:52:58.670 --> 00:53:00.969
if you don't address these things and you don't

00:53:00.969 --> 00:53:02.849
start calling them out for what they are the

00:53:02.849 --> 00:53:05.510
mental side of this surgery is what will bring

00:53:05.510 --> 00:53:08.710
i don't get you it won't break you It will break

00:53:08.710 --> 00:53:10.329
you. Because you'll be back to eating normally

00:53:10.329 --> 00:53:11.889
way quicker than you think. There are people

00:53:11.889 --> 00:53:13.789
who are at a thousand calories three months after

00:53:13.789 --> 00:53:15.570
surgery and they go, oh, whoa. And it's like,

00:53:15.670 --> 00:53:18.130
yep. And like, that's fine. You do your own path,

00:53:18.329 --> 00:53:20.650
but the speed at which you can get back. And

00:53:20.650 --> 00:53:22.550
there are plenty of people after surgery who

00:53:22.550 --> 00:53:25.110
are still eating over 2000 calories because of

00:53:25.110 --> 00:53:26.929
their workout. And they're still maintaining,

00:53:27.150 --> 00:53:29.329
but you'll see a ton of people who go, well,

00:53:29.389 --> 00:53:31.949
my average calories per day are 1800 to 2300.

00:53:32.489 --> 00:53:36.570
So you can absolutely get back to eating high

00:53:36.570 --> 00:53:40.420
calorie. and gain the weight back. So just trust

00:53:40.420 --> 00:53:42.739
us when we say the physical side is not the hard

00:53:42.739 --> 00:53:45.400
side, the mental side, the coming to terms with

00:53:45.400 --> 00:53:47.719
how you got here side, the being brutally honest

00:53:47.719 --> 00:53:51.699
about your lifestyle, and not allowing those

00:53:51.699 --> 00:53:54.840
old patterns to come in. And the ones that you

00:53:54.840 --> 00:53:56.619
have to watch are the ones that aren't negative.

00:53:56.719 --> 00:53:58.960
So I think we can always catch like, I don't

00:53:58.960 --> 00:54:00.860
need to eat when I'm depressed. Great. It's the

00:54:00.860 --> 00:54:03.590
other ones where it's like, Well, love for me

00:54:03.590 --> 00:54:07.090
is baking. Love is, is giving people food. I

00:54:07.090 --> 00:54:09.849
care for people through food. Those are the.

00:54:10.530 --> 00:54:13.030
Let's go out for dinner. Yeah. Because you know,

00:54:13.030 --> 00:54:16.110
you have to watch the positive ones you associate

00:54:16.110 --> 00:54:20.070
with food almost more because love is a lot of

00:54:20.070 --> 00:54:21.929
other as a lot of things, but it doesn't have

00:54:21.929 --> 00:54:24.110
to be baking and it doesn't have to be cooking

00:54:24.110 --> 00:54:26.550
because you also have to start to realize like.

00:54:26.920 --> 00:54:29.880
Would you be eating that like 1700 calorie cake

00:54:29.880 --> 00:54:31.599
that you just baked for your loved ones because

00:54:31.599 --> 00:54:35.099
that's how you show love? Or, you know, are you

00:54:35.099 --> 00:54:36.880
not eating that because it's super high in sugar

00:54:36.880 --> 00:54:40.239
and fat and calories? Like my parents don't have

00:54:40.239 --> 00:54:41.760
to change their eating habits at all. But my

00:54:41.760 --> 00:54:44.320
mom said, we want to. We actually didn't realize

00:54:44.320 --> 00:54:46.539
like how much junk food we kept in the house,

00:54:46.559 --> 00:54:48.820
how much sugar we were eating. Like they didn't

00:54:48.820 --> 00:54:50.460
realize how much they were eating out. And they

00:54:50.460 --> 00:54:52.880
were like, that's if it's not good for you, it's

00:54:52.880 --> 00:54:55.429
probably not good for us. And I was like, yeah.

00:54:55.550 --> 00:54:58.550
So I don't bring desserts home for them anymore.

00:54:58.610 --> 00:55:00.789
I used to bring donuts or I'd go to the fancy

00:55:00.789 --> 00:55:03.110
bakery. Like I don't buy them cake and stuff

00:55:03.110 --> 00:55:04.909
like that anymore because I know like if I'm

00:55:04.909 --> 00:55:07.949
not going to eat it, that's not how I show love

00:55:07.949 --> 00:55:10.170
anymore. I show love by showing up, by going

00:55:10.170 --> 00:55:12.989
out, doing activities, spending time together.

00:55:13.269 --> 00:55:15.849
That's my advice is just watch, watch the social

00:55:15.849 --> 00:55:18.710
eating and then watch associating eating with

00:55:18.710 --> 00:55:21.769
positive. Like, I don't know. I think the people

00:55:21.769 --> 00:55:24.659
who associate. food and giving food with love

00:55:24.659 --> 00:55:27.280
will have the hardest time giving it up because

00:55:27.280 --> 00:55:29.300
they see it as such a positive and a blessing

00:55:29.300 --> 00:55:32.780
and it's it's not that it isn't it's that there's

00:55:32.780 --> 00:55:35.380
so many more cautious yeah there's so many other

00:55:35.380 --> 00:55:38.440
things that are that are just as important and

00:55:38.440 --> 00:55:42.119
can be just as much and just about weight loss

00:55:42.119 --> 00:55:45.440
right like it's not it's you know it helps with

00:55:45.440 --> 00:55:47.699
mental function it helps with other things like

00:55:47.699 --> 00:55:49.340
my parents are not overweight there's nothing

00:55:49.340 --> 00:55:52.269
wrong with them eating dessert but you know my

00:55:52.269 --> 00:55:54.170
dad has some health issues and my you know my

00:55:54.170 --> 00:55:55.809
parents are getting older so should they really

00:55:55.809 --> 00:55:58.409
be eating a ton of sugary junk food not really

00:55:58.409 --> 00:56:01.449
probably not great for their long -term health

00:56:01.449 --> 00:56:03.190
either so there's a lot of things that aren't

00:56:03.190 --> 00:56:05.130
just related to weight here there's blood pressure

00:56:05.130 --> 00:56:07.769
blood overall health cardiac health right so

00:56:07.769 --> 00:56:11.769
that's the thing just just watch watch your eating

00:56:11.769 --> 00:56:14.210
habits and the mental side of things. That's

00:56:14.210 --> 00:56:16.130
what can derail people pretty quick with surgery.

00:56:16.269 --> 00:56:18.710
And that's the side that nobody really invests

00:56:18.710 --> 00:56:21.010
in. And I know it's easier in Canada than the

00:56:21.010 --> 00:56:23.710
States. I know that access to a good mental health

00:56:23.710 --> 00:56:26.329
is hard, but if there's one thing you should

00:56:26.329 --> 00:56:28.389
buy, it's not a personal trainer. It's not a

00:56:28.389 --> 00:56:31.429
nutritionist. It's a therapist. You need to have

00:56:31.429 --> 00:56:34.369
someone help you go through this journey. Thousand

00:56:34.369 --> 00:56:37.449
percent. Okay. We'll end on a really quick one.

00:56:37.960 --> 00:56:40.219
Bonus segment. So that was our top 10 things

00:56:40.219 --> 00:56:43.480
we wish we knew before bariatric surgery. What's

00:56:43.480 --> 00:56:46.719
the weirdest thing that changed for you post

00:56:46.719 --> 00:56:51.539
-surgery? The weirdest thing. Physically? Mentally?

00:56:52.059 --> 00:56:54.320
Physically, mentally, could be a love of new

00:56:54.320 --> 00:56:58.099
food. I'm going to go with this. We talked about

00:56:58.099 --> 00:57:01.559
this. The stomach sounds. Yeah, that's fun. So

00:57:01.559 --> 00:57:06.139
I am legitimately nervous. I have not gone into,

00:57:06.260 --> 00:57:11.409
so I work from home. my team will say is based

00:57:11.409 --> 00:57:13.809
in Toronto. So whenever we get together, like

00:57:13.809 --> 00:57:15.550
once a quarter, it's at the office in Toronto.

00:57:15.889 --> 00:57:19.429
Yes. I have not been to the office in surgery

00:57:19.429 --> 00:57:21.150
because the last one we had was in the winter

00:57:21.150 --> 00:57:23.630
and the weather here was absolutely crap. And

00:57:23.630 --> 00:57:27.869
I'm like legitimately nervous to go into the

00:57:27.869 --> 00:57:30.130
office because we go for the day and we sit in

00:57:30.130 --> 00:57:32.929
a, in a meeting room and do our team like QBR.

00:57:32.989 --> 00:57:37.739
Right. So for me, And a lot of people who have

00:57:37.739 --> 00:57:41.699
surgery have this. Your stomach makes noises

00:57:41.699 --> 00:57:46.139
like you have never heard before. And they are

00:57:46.139 --> 00:57:49.940
loud. Like when I tell you Devin can hear it

00:57:49.940 --> 00:57:54.059
across the room. And he'll just look at me and

00:57:54.059 --> 00:57:56.420
be like, really? Or he'll look at me and be like,

00:57:56.460 --> 00:57:58.559
excuse you. And I'll be like, that's my stomach.

00:57:58.619 --> 00:58:02.940
It's not me. It's not me. So I'm legitimately

00:58:02.940 --> 00:58:05.260
nervous to go to the office for the first time

00:58:05.260 --> 00:58:06.960
because I'm going to have guys like, I'm sorry,

00:58:07.119 --> 00:58:10.320
we're going to have lunch and I'm going to be

00:58:10.320 --> 00:58:14.079
drinking. Tea makes me gurgle a lot. I get that.

00:58:14.099 --> 00:58:17.139
It really makes me gurgle. But yeah, your stomach

00:58:17.139 --> 00:58:24.239
makes some crazy loud sounds. Yep. That's a good

00:58:24.239 --> 00:58:26.880
one. That's a good one. Mine is going to be...

00:58:27.239 --> 00:58:30.860
An interesting one. My hair has changed. Yeah.

00:58:30.960 --> 00:58:33.880
So hair loss is a thing. And trust me, I'm also

00:58:33.880 --> 00:58:36.719
going through another round of hair loss and

00:58:36.719 --> 00:58:41.340
it does come back, but my hair is now insanely

00:58:41.340 --> 00:58:44.679
wavy and it never really used to look like this,

00:58:44.739 --> 00:58:47.320
but like it is. And Steph can see me even though

00:58:47.320 --> 00:58:49.860
we're not recording, but like video, but it is.

00:58:50.480 --> 00:58:52.260
I don't even know how to describe it. And I'm

00:58:52.260 --> 00:58:53.800
happy about it. I must say it's a good change.

00:58:53.960 --> 00:58:57.880
It is wavy, luscious. I don't know how this happened,

00:58:57.960 --> 00:59:00.280
but like my hair has completely changed texture.

00:59:01.139 --> 00:59:03.440
It is no longer like this frizzy thing. It's

00:59:03.440 --> 00:59:06.579
this wavy. I love it, but it's so weird how that.

00:59:06.809 --> 00:59:09.369
and it's red um so it's got like a different

00:59:09.369 --> 00:59:12.110
texture and hue to it so that was the weirdest

00:59:12.110 --> 00:59:14.329
thing that changed after surgery it took a while

00:59:14.329 --> 00:59:16.610
to get here and i was like i'm gonna be bald

00:59:16.610 --> 00:59:18.090
and my hair is never gonna grow back because

00:59:18.090 --> 00:59:21.210
like it grew so slow after surgery and now i'm

00:59:21.210 --> 00:59:26.610
like damn like because like i love looking at

00:59:26.610 --> 00:59:29.130
it now like and you guys have seen it in camp

00:59:29.130 --> 00:59:31.329
and in episodes and on my instagram and stuff

00:59:31.329 --> 00:59:35.389
like it's just this bushy wavy wild carrie bradshaw

00:59:35.389 --> 00:59:39.679
hair so That was super weird to me. Also, I really

00:59:39.679 --> 00:59:41.780
like spicy dill pickles now. Can't explain why.

00:59:41.820 --> 00:59:43.619
I love dill pickles. I'm eating them by the jar.

00:59:43.760 --> 00:59:45.400
Like, spicy dill pickles are now my favorite.

00:59:45.400 --> 00:59:46.719
You got to send me a picture of the ones that

00:59:46.719 --> 00:59:48.820
you're eating. Yes, I will post it on Instagram

00:59:48.820 --> 00:59:50.099
for everyone listening. I love dill pickles.

00:59:50.139 --> 00:59:52.800
I legitimately can't stop eating spicy dill pickles.

00:59:52.880 --> 00:59:55.900
Spicy food is now just, I crave it, which is

00:59:55.900 --> 00:59:58.559
really weird. Yeah, I love it. That's that's

00:59:58.559 --> 01:00:00.260
the weirdest things that changed for us post

01:00:00.260 --> 01:00:03.059
surgery. We want to hear from anybody who had

01:00:03.059 --> 01:00:04.659
surgery. What's the weirdest thing that changed

01:00:04.659 --> 01:00:06.179
for you? And then we want to hear from anybody

01:00:06.179 --> 01:00:08.519
pre surgery. You know, what do you think? Did

01:00:08.519 --> 01:00:10.159
we miss anything on the list? Are there things

01:00:10.159 --> 01:00:12.539
that you're anxious about or excited about? It's

01:00:12.539 --> 01:00:14.440
not always bad. This list had some funny good

01:00:14.440 --> 01:00:17.239
things, too. So just know that we don't regret

01:00:17.239 --> 01:00:21.530
the surgery. We wish we'd get it sooner. These

01:00:21.530 --> 01:00:22.809
are the things that just would have prepared

01:00:22.809 --> 01:00:24.710
us a little better, but in no way would any of

01:00:24.710 --> 01:00:27.670
these things stopped us from doing it. So we

01:00:27.670 --> 01:00:29.389
want to hear from you. Leave some comments. Let

01:00:29.389 --> 01:00:32.849
us know. And what you want us to cover and talk

01:00:32.849 --> 01:00:34.750
about. Who should we invite on? Who should we

01:00:34.750 --> 01:00:36.510
interview? What topics do you want to see us

01:00:36.510 --> 01:00:38.329
cover? We still have a lot of great ones coming

01:00:38.329 --> 01:00:42.489
up, like dating and relationships. and just some

01:00:42.489 --> 01:00:45.809
other really cool ones coming up. So let us know.

01:00:46.150 --> 01:00:48.250
And let us know what you'd like us to taste test.

01:00:48.309 --> 01:00:50.469
That was a cool one that came up. We do want

01:00:50.469 --> 01:00:52.590
to do a protein taste test. We want to try some

01:00:52.590 --> 01:00:55.150
of these popular influencer things and let you

01:00:55.150 --> 01:00:57.570
know if they're worth it or not worth it. Because

01:00:57.570 --> 01:01:00.809
I think we're all questioning, is good protein

01:01:00.809 --> 01:01:03.849
good? Is Clean Simple Eats a good protein? Spoiler,

01:01:03.969 --> 01:01:07.590
it's not. I've tried it. Are those candies any

01:01:07.590 --> 01:01:11.239
good? Is Smart Tweets better than ours? quest

01:01:11.239 --> 01:01:13.360
better than so we're going to do a whole series

01:01:13.360 --> 01:01:15.400
where we'll try protein bars and rate them we'll

01:01:15.400 --> 01:01:18.659
try protein clear protein milk protein so let

01:01:18.659 --> 01:01:21.039
us know what do you have what have you seen what

01:01:21.039 --> 01:01:22.599
are you curious about what do you want us to

01:01:22.599 --> 01:01:24.739
try and we'll give you our honest opinion on

01:01:24.739 --> 01:01:27.900
if it's worth it or not because we are not affiliated

01:01:27.900 --> 01:01:30.739
with anybody we can talk shit about whatever

01:01:30.739 --> 01:01:35.030
we want we're gonna talk shit Like always, thank

01:01:35.030 --> 01:01:36.929
you guys for listening along. We love you. We

01:01:36.929 --> 01:01:39.690
love our fans so frigging much. Please keep talking

01:01:39.690 --> 01:01:41.650
to us. We love your stories and your comments.

01:01:41.730 --> 01:01:44.690
We love messaging you on social. And let us know

01:01:44.690 --> 01:01:46.849
what you want to see. We want to build our socials

01:01:46.849 --> 01:01:49.409
around what you want. So let us know if it's

01:01:49.409 --> 01:01:53.269
hot takedowns, trials, tests. And just know I

01:01:53.269 --> 01:01:56.489
will be back on Instagram soon. I've started

01:01:56.489 --> 01:01:59.650
a new job. She's a little busy. Well, I still

01:01:59.650 --> 01:02:01.309
have another job. So I'm trying to transition

01:02:01.309 --> 01:02:03.250
out of my old job, roll into my new job, which

01:02:03.250 --> 01:02:04.929
is a really, really fun, exciting thing I'll

01:02:04.929 --> 01:02:07.309
talk about soon and have a big vacation coming

01:02:07.309 --> 01:02:09.090
up. So I'm just a bit busy and stressed, but

01:02:09.090 --> 01:02:11.489
I will be posting on Instagram more as soon as

01:02:11.489 --> 01:02:14.010
I - Crazy month. You know, get everything settled

01:02:14.010 --> 01:02:16.150
at this new job. Yeah, stay tuned on Instagram

01:02:16.150 --> 01:02:18.090
because we're both, Hannah and I, May's a crazy

01:02:18.090 --> 01:02:20.250
month. We got lots coming up. We both have vacation.

01:02:20.469 --> 01:02:24.269
We both have trips. So stay tuned. Yeah, if you're

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an American, Steph is going to the west coast

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of Canada and I'm going to the east coast of

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Canada. So if you've ever wanted to see what

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those two provinces look like, we will document

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our time in me, Nova Scotia. And for Steph, Alberta.

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I'm going to my family cottage, but I'll still

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document the cool shit we do while we're there.

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But yeah, we'll kind of document our little vacations

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and things like that. But like always, we just

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love you guys so much. So thank you for making

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this what it is. We wouldn't be doing this without

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you guys. You guys are the best. Awesome. And

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like always staff, thanks for talking with me

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today. See you next week. Bye guys. Bye.